True love is about growth and acceptance, not about changing your partner

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True love is about growth and acceptance, not about changing your partner

When two people are driven by true love and not by ulterior motives and feel unconditional feelings for each other, they eventually develop into better and more mature individuals.

Those who really love do not have any conditions. They ignore the imperfections and shortcomings of their partner and focus only on their good qualities. They accept their partner as he is, for the rest of their lives, even the bad, because everything is part of him.

This true love helps them to face all problems together and get out of every situation stronger than before.

You may have been in a situation where you were driven by motives other than true love. This means that you have painted yourself a perfect partner and projected him onto someone.

But the belief that one is able to control someone and eliminate one’s imperfections is simply not right. This is a completely wrong way of thinking, because you also have shortcomings. Even if you strive for perfection, you have to stop for a minute and think carefully about whether you are just afraid to fall in love with someone else and his authentic self .

Because it’s about whether you fit together, not if the person has everything you want in it. It’s about the feelings that two people feel for each other and not whether it’s a good material for a love movie.

Instead of trying to figure out what you could change about your partner, allow yourself to fall in love without paying attention to these details . If you act like this, you will soon find that you both will turn to the better over time. Thus one can say that you will develop to much better people.

But this change has to start with you. If you really love each other, you will motivate each other to become the best version of yourself. You will be the person he deserves, but he will become the person you deserve.

You will not have to force yourself to change each other. You will take things slowly. You will always back each other up, so that the change you have been waiting for so long will come from within.

You will learn to sacrifice your wishes for his benefit. Because if you really love him, you will be ready to sacrifice your temporary needs for the wellbeing of your partner or your relationship. He will be your priority forever and he will appreciate that.

You will love each other passionately and without fear. To love your partner means to respect him with all your heart and with your whole being. It also means loving him when he is ill, unfriendly, depressed or in a bad mood.

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You will love and appreciate him, though he has shortcomings and imperfections. Because nobody is perfect and honest to love means to accept the fact that your partner will make mistakes. And when that happens, you will forgive him and still love him.

But loving does not mean losing yourself.

It is important for every human to understand that he must always see himself as a priority. You should learn to love yourself first, so that you will be able to like other people. You have to be your own source of strength and well-being to be there for others too. The way you treat yourself is a reflection of how you treat others.

Everyone, absolutely everyone, gets to the point where he can not give more than he gets something back. Therefore, love means to mutually support and to seek each other. You can not control the relationship and life, but you set the guidelines for how to treat yourself.

Therefore truly love yourself and accept all your weaknesses, failures and mistakes. Only in this way will you be able to find the perfect partner.

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