Arguments can be painful as most of us are not cut out for conflict. We can try to walk through life avoiding them as much as possible but as adults, we have to realize that from time to time, we’re going to come across a disagreement.
Here’s some really great news though – couples who argue together have a better chance of staying together. Joseph Grenny, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Crucial Conversations, explained to The Guardian, “The biggest mistake that couples make is avoidance. We feel something but say nothing. At least until we can’t stand it anymore. So we wait until we are certain to discuss it poorly before we bring it up.
“We tend to avoid these conversations because we are conscious of the risks of speaking up but unconscious of the risks of not speaking up. We tend to only weigh the immediate and obvious risks without considering the longer-term costs to intimacy, trust, and connection.”
So if expert advice is to speak up then we will need to be prepared to argue with our partner, friend or relative from time to time without causing any lasting damage. Thankfully, we have the zodiac to look to and know exactly what to expect from a conflict will help a quicker resolution.
Fire signs like Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius have one of the greatest traits of the zodiac and that is their uniqueness. You will never find another person quite like them. Each has their own personal spark that sets them apart from the rest. However, if that spark is used to ignite something negative then the burn will sting for quite some time. They are the governess of fire after all and true to the saying: “Careful if you play with fire because you might get burned.”
They are passionate, seductive, charming and strong – so it’s easy to be drawn like a moth to their flame.
However, they need someone who can match them or they soon get bored and lose interest. Anyone who has dated a fire sign and it didn’t quite work out will know the pain of the breakup is like no other because they are such a larger than life force. If they can meet their match – then it’s instant fireworks.
In all arguments, they like to get their own way and will use any means to get it. If you’re brave enough to face her head on when it comes to conflict then all we can say is best of luck – you’ll need it.
Out of all the fire signs – there is no doubt that Aries carries the torch just a bit higher than the rest. They really are the very definition of fiery and need to find someone who matches them in spirit and determination. Just one interaction with them and people are either blown away by their gutsy personality or they simply can’t take the heat. Famous rams like Emma Watson, Reese Witherspoon, Sarah Jessica Parker, Kiera Knightley, and Jennifer Garner will likely all have the fire in them too.
If you get caught in an argument with this sign you will notice one thing they can never quit on and that’s always having the last word. No matter what. Some bad news for Aries is that being a person who is determined to always have the last word has been linked to egomania. It allows them to have a feeling of power over others and conquer the whole argument. However, the sense of pride from that power trip will only last a short while and afterward, they might be left with feelings of insecurity and lack of confidence on the inevitable emotional comedown. That’s when they will likely reach other for you and it’s rare from an Aries, but you might even get an apology too.
All proud Leo women are ruled by the Sun. They are represented by the lion with a lion with an ‘impenetrable hide’ and appear unshakeable. When it comes to relationships, they love feeling satisfied and the fire in them also transforms them into very passionate partners. Other famous Leo women who love the finer things in life and are driven for success are Kylie Jenner, Jennifer Lopez, and Cara Delevingne.
Their partners had better be aware that they love to be the one in charge and always at the center of attention.
On the reverse side, they are extremely emotional, overly sensitive and can get hurt easily. This is when the lioness in her will come out roaring and even the smallest of arguments can escalate to explosive proportions. That said, it’s quite easy to get a Leo girl to come back round to you after she feels wrong (even if that’s not the case, she still won’t see it that way) and showering her with gifts will make her melt from lion to fluffy kitten in seconds. Every girl loves to be spoilt but Leos tend to base their whole world on gifting and will only dedicate their time to those who really make them feel special. Sure, it’s hard work but having a Leo girl as a partner is also worth it.
Sagittarius women are truly the fun sign of the zodiac as they are known for their witty, exciting and adventurous fun-loving personalities. On the downside, it’s tough to admit but they do have a slight case of ‘me, me, me’ syndrome. When you’re caught out in an argument with them, it’s almost impossible to win because they simply won’t take on board your point of view. No matter how much you express how you’re feeling about certain situations or conflicts, it will fall on deaf ears which can be very frustrating.
Gaining perspective or seeing things from another point of view is not an easy thing to master, especially for a fiery Sagittarius, but it has great benefits for a happier life. Author of Enlightened Living, Michael J Formica, explained to Psychology Today, “By taking another person’s point of view, we broaden our own. In doing so, we become aware of not only our own actions but the consequences of those actions. Understanding both action and consequence can lead us to ownership, and fortify our sense of personal responsibility because it puts us in a place where nothing is assumed and we are beholden to consider all sides of a situation.”
Earth signs are known as the builders of the zodiac and they also like to be in charge. For them to rise to the top of their game they usually play by the mantra ‘Whatever it takes’. Once they have their sights set on a goal, it’s unlikely for them to lose focus. They want the finer things in life and know a lot of hard work will achieve that, some people can be intimidated by their powerful personality whereas others admire them in equal measure.
Earth signs take their duty as a partner, close friend or family member very seriously.
They make excellent mothers because they are ready to protect those they love at all costs and like to keep their own castle secure. That said, you really don’t want to cross them because feeling the wrath of an Earth sign is like nothing else. When they fly into a rage, the ground will feel like it’s trembling beneath you.
When it comes to finding someone who will be compatible with them, it’s better for this sign to stick to their own kind. That way they will have the same morals and goals – with, hopefully, very little conflict along the way.
Taurus bulls are one of the most excessive signs of the zodiac. They don’t settle for having just a little, they love a lot and are often caught out over-indulging themselves. Female bulls enjoy the finer things in life but the one thing they really dislike is hearing the word ‘No’. If something stands in the way of they want, then they are not afraid to charge head-on. This can be overwhelming if you’re trapped in an argument with her as the aggression can become too much.
However, there’s a very deep and soft side to Taurus and the quickest way to end a conflict is simply to kill her with kindness. If you’re the first to reach out your arms, embrace her in a big hug and offer some kind words – she will likely forget what got her so mad in the first place. Ruled by Venus, they are the Goddess of love after all and unconditional love is what they really crave deep down.
Strong bulls like Donatella Versace, Gal Gadot, Uma Thurman, Kirsten Dunst, and Gigi Hadid are likely also tough on the outside but soft in the middle. They just need to learn how to let their guard down once in awhile and the world will become a more loving place for them to be in.
Ruled by Mercury, Virgo girls are the second-largest constellation on the zodiac and they have a naturally powerful attitude that makes sure everyone knows it. This is one deep sign who prefers to stick to the facts rather than decisions based solely on feeling. Unfortunately, they are not just analytical but also very critical.
They have a good eye for detail, strive for perfection and don’t like to make mistakes – neither are they forgiving of those who make mistakes around them.
When you’re arguing with a Virgo, don’t expect the conflict to be over in seconds because they will take the time to tell you in detail exactly when you stepped out of line – you could be there awhile.
In an interview with Bustle, psychotherapist Kristen Martinez advised over-critical personalities, “When you’re overly critical, you are your own worst enemy, as well as everyone else’s! Your relationships may suffer from your constant complaining and negativity. Chances are, most everyone is fully aware of their own perceived flaws (whether they’re correct or not), so it probably isn’t too helpful for you to keep pointing them out.”
Strong Virgos like Beyonce, Cameron Diaz, Blake Lively and Salma Hayek might appreciate this advice from Martinez, too.
Capricorn girls are well-known for being very sure of themselves – they are the powerhouse of the zodiac and always like to come out on top. If anyone threatens this power then they can become defensive, irritable and stubborn. Most of us are able to admit when we are wrong and apologize but for a Capricorn, that kind of humility does not come easily to them. They are not just Miss Right but also Miss Right-All-The-Time. Even if they are not willing to admit this to themselves, it’s likely been pointed out by those who are close to them.
Capricorns can become the very best self if they learn to acknowledge when they are in the wrong and not to become so defensive in an argument. Taking a step back from the disagreement, agreeing exactly what the problem is and their own involvement would be the more responsible thing to do. They are a fiercely proud sign, so this does take some practice but if they are able to get there then life would be a lot easier for them and their relationships will grow stronger.
Other powerful and strong Capricorn women are Michelle Obama, The Duchess of Cambridge a.k.a Kate Middleton, Lauren Cohen and Noah Cyrus.
It’s not easy being an air sign that’s for sure. They are smart, articulated and great problem solvers – until it becomes a personal issue then they struggle to take their own advice. One minute they can blow up in a fit of rage and the next they have cooled down so quick it’s a head spin to understand what actually just happened. If you find yourself in a relationship or close friendship with this sign then be warned that no two days are going to feel like the same.
They need to learn how to think before they speak because their words usually end up hurting those around them.
They have a soft side and always regret something they’ve said during the heat of an argument. Taking a few moments and a breath before they say anything would really help them from lashing out in the future. Also, it will allow those they are arguing with to gather their own thoughts too.
Once they have started thinking clearly again, they can express their real feelings and not feel so frustrated which often results in them losing their temper. It will save them a lot of unnecessary pain in the long term.
Born under the tropical zodiac, Gemini is represented by the twin symbol which reflects both sides of their personality. Day to day, you don’t quite know which side of them you will get but a word of warning – both sides of them can certainly hold a grudge. After an argument, they will like give a big hug and make it better because they want the fight to come to an end but don’t be surprised if months down the line they bring up exactly the same fight all over again.
Holding a grudge isn’t great for the emotional wellbeing of a Gemini but she just can’t help it. PsychCentral online advises, “A grudge can form when an issue isn’t fully confronted. Without being judgmental about yourself or another, clarify your feelings on the situation. Only when you are ready, communicate with the other person about the issue. Whether you work it out on your own or involved the other person, you may feel more relieved by releasing that built up tension and all involved can have a better understanding of the situation and able to resolve the issue.”
Other Geminis who won’t forget those that wronged them are Angelina Jolie, Lana Del Rey, Natalie Portman, and Helena Bonham Carter. So you have been pre-warned.
Libra ladies are one of the most feminine signs on the planet; they make the perfect muses and will always surround themselves with beauty like fresh flowers or heart-shaped jewelry. They love falling in love and are completely faithful – she simply loves to be loved.
However, their sweet side should not be taken for granted because they are certainly not a pushover.
They hate signs of weakness and would never want to be seen in that light by anyone. When faced with a situation that involves conflict, she will fiercely defend themselves and stand up for what she believes is right. They manage this with such a grace and dignity that it’s quite admirable. Just don’t find yourself on the wrong end of her sharp tongue because she picks her words to hurt.
Kim Kardashian, Kate Winslet, Marion Cotillard, Dita Von Teese and Monica Belluci are all Libras who know exactly what they expect from the people in their lives and keep a high social standard. They make the best friends on the planet because they are willing to step in and help any friend who is being picked on. In their younger days, Libra girls would be the friend that helps to chase the other bullies away.
Aquarius signs are known for their shy and quiet side, preferring to take a step back from the spotlight in social situations and just blending into the background. They fiercely guard their personal life and prefer their own company rather than attending large parties. Ruled by Uranus and Saturn, they are a fixed sign with a lot of mystery behind them. The dark side of their personality is they will have an argument brewing but won’t fully explain what exactly is upsetting them.
This can lead to a lot of confusion in relationships as those that surround them won’t be entirely sure exactly where they stand with them. It takes a long time for this sign to find their ‘one true love’ often leaving a trail of broken hearts behind them. They can’t tell you exactly who they are searching for because she might not be too sure herself.
Sadly other famous Aquarius signs like Jennifer Aniston, Emma Roberts, and Denise Richards also have been quite unlucky in love. Jennifer suffered heartbreak with two divorces, Denise famously ended her turbulent marriage to actor Charlie Sheen, and it looks like things have definitely been called off between Emma Roberts and her American Horror Story co-star Evan Peters.
Water signs like Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces are ruled by the Fourth, Eighth and Twelfth Houses. This allows them to simply flow through life and adapt to most situations around them. As a water sign, they don’t have much to hold onto so can gravitate towards people that make them feel properly grounded and secure.
Conflict is not for them – they will do anything in their power to avoid it and feel a sense of dread when they can see a conversation is moving towards an argument.
When you think of a water sign just imagine ultra-sensitivity.
Because water signs are known as the psychics of the zodiac, they can smell out a brewing disagreement before it’s even happened. Don’t even try and attempt to bring any unnecessary drama into their lives as they might end up cutting you out completely. They also put a big price on their own privacy so you should never try to attempt an invasion of their own personal space. Following a disagreement, it’s better to let them come to you then for yourself to attempt to fix things. As frustrating as that might be, water signs prefer to move at an individual pace and on their own terms.
To someone who is not familiar with the Cancerian sign, they will be at first quite taken aback by their sensitivity. They are outgoing, have a wonderful sense of humor but they expect those close to them to walk on eggshells as a harsh word can hurt them for weeks. This crab sign will then retract to their own shell and hide away from the world until they have self-soothed.
The late famous Cancerian Princess Diana was well-known within the Britsh royal family for her mood swings. Author and historian Sally Bedell Smith revealed to The Daily Express that Prince Charles was shocked by her “emotional storms, which shocked him in their intensity and suddenness.” If only he would have understood the emotional Cancerian sign better.
Seeking out a greater understanding of this sign will create a happier relationship for everyone involved. Cancerians are great talkers and being able to sit down together for a discussion rather than an argument will bring a greater closeness. Most of the time they are not looking for a fight at all and if you are able to practice compassion for this sensitive sign then you’ll find yourself falling in love with their very best qualities which they have a lot of.
Scorpio women are some of the most self-assertive and assured people on the planet. They are also career focused and driven, so be warned that they don’t like to have their time wasted. If you find yourself in a conflict with this sign, it will likely be over quite quickly as they get straight to the point and fast. That way they can get back to more productive things that require their time – like building their own empire and getting ready to dominate the world.
Because they are assertive sometimes this can be misunderstood as being cold to others.
Other famous Scorpio women like Anne Hathaway, Scarlett Johannson, Katy Perry, Kris Jenner and Kendall Jenner are also outspoken and their manner can sometimes come across as bullish. That’s just how it goes down for this sign whose ruling planets are Pluto and Mars who are known for their exotic beauty and mystery.
They make excellent leaders in any situation because they are so determined to get things done. If there’s a conflict within a social group, they will put themselves right in the middle of the situation and diffuse it quickly. Stay sincere around them because they don’t suffer fools gladly.
Pisces girls are a rare type of fish; they are charming, practical and can’t stay in one place for a long time. They like to move around and meet new people, always ready to shine and be the best. Because they are so social, they rarely get involved with conflict but the one thing that can’t stand is unfairness in the world. Famous Pisces signs like Camila Cabello, Rihanna, Emily Blunt, Jessica Biel and Dakota Fanning know this all too well.
Neptune is the ruling planet for this sign so they have a better intuition than others and also possess a lot of empathy. Once they are in an argument, they like both sides to be heard fairly and will only raise their voice if they believe they are being unfairly judged. They are the peacekeepers of the zodiac but that doesn’t mean they are a pushover. They prefer to see the world through rose-colored glasses but this can often backfire when they put their trust in people they shouldn’t.
Once she has settled the debate and put everyone back in their right place, she can quickly snap back into her normal, laidback demeanor. They forgive – but be warned that they never forget.