You find it terrifying to truly open up to another person. To be vulnerable in front of them. To let your guard down and spill the secrets that you’ve worked so hard to keep from the world.
Trusting someone is terrifying to you. You are secretly afraid that you will be cheated on and then you will end up dying alone. You find it hard to have faith that someone won’t hurt you when they could easily do so.
You are terrified of change — and in a relationship, everything changes. You have to meet new people. You have to go new places. You might even have to live in a new place. And that makes you uncomfortable.
You find the possibility of falling out of love terrifying. You hate that there’s a chance your partner might wake up one day and no longer feel as strongly for you as they once did. You would rather have a big blowout than discover that they slowly fell out of love for no real reason.
You are terrified of losing your independence. You don’t want to become one of those people who brings their person everywhere and relies on them for everything. You’re worried that you’ll lose yourself once you find someone to date.
You are terrified of spending all of your time with one person. You’re so busy with work and with friends that you aren’t sure if you can fit a relationship into your schedule. You’re worried that love will take time away from the other things you care about.
You are terrified of love, because the more you have, the more you have to lose. You don’t want to raise your expectations and then end up disappointed. You don’t know if you could handle that level of pain.
You are terrified of yourself. You are scared that you will find something great and then screw it all up. You are scared that you are going to be the one to blame for the impending breakup.
You are terrified of commitment. You don’t want to dedicate yourself to one person and then realize that you chose the wrong one years later. You don’t want to get rid of all your options.
You are terrified of history repeating itself. You’ve been hurt before and you don’t want it to happen again. You don’t want to experience all of those painful emotions that you promised yourself you would never live through again.
You are terrified of finding happiness. A part of you doesn’t believe that you deserve it. A part of you feels like you are meant to be alone forever.
You are terrified of being the one who loves more. Of being the only one putting in effort. Of being the only one who genuinly cares whether the relationship lasts a lifetime or falls to pieces.