You know how it feels when you meet a guy that just can’t help but fall for. You start imagining your future together, wondering where he’ll take you on your first date, secretly planning out your wedding on Pinterest, casually picking out your kids’ names…you know the drill. But sometimes, beneath all of that love and happiness, there can also be a bit of fear. Once you get past that initial “will he ask me out or not?” phase, you’ll probably go through a honeymoon period for a few months, where everything is absolutely perfect. And then the anxiety might start to set in.
You might wonder if you two are really right for each other — mainly, you will probably wonder if you’re good enough for him. You will have moments where you question everything, moments when you wonder if you really measure up to his standards. But rest assured — you are MORE than enough, and he chose you because he loves you! Still not convinced? Well, it’s understandable, because everyone gets insecure sometimes. You’re only human! Maybe you just need a little pick-me-up! Here’s the one thing each zodiac sign needs to do to boost their confidence in a relationship.
When you’re a fire sign, you generally find yourself feeling pretty confident. After all, you’ve got that fiery personality that everyone loves, you have a good sense of humor, and you’re a lot of fun to be around. What’s not to like? What on earth could you have to be insecure about? Well, the truth is, sometimes even you get insecure in relationships! Yes, that’s right, even Leo, Aries, and Sagittarius get sweaty palms and butterflies in their stomachs. Nobody’s perfect, after all!
Here’s the thing about fire signs — they are kind of used to being single.
Therefore, when they do settle down and start dating someone, it’s a lot of fun at first, but then they start wondering, “Am I doing this right? Could I be getting this whole ‘dating’ thing all wrong?” It’s enough to drive a person crazy! But don’t worry, fire signs, we know just what you need to hear to pick yourself up out of that insecure rut. A few words of wisdom will help you stop questioning yourself and simply enjoy your relationship again. There is someone out there for everyone, and if you’re with the right person, you have nothing to worry about!
Aries, it’s easy for you to feel like you’ll never truly be ready for a relationship. After all, you do truly love being single, and it’s tough to break out of that mindset, even when you do find someone you really like! So, let’s lay out a common scenario for an Aries who finally decides to settle down with one person. You meet that special someone, you hit it off, you decide to set aside your old ways and just commit to them. And then suddenly, you start wondering: “what if they figure out that I’m used to being single, and they don’t want me? What if they don’t think I’m actually going to stick around, so they call it quits just to protect their own heart?”
Aries, there’s only one thing you need to do: have a little faith in yourself. Seriously, you CAN do this. There are plenty of people out there who were single for a long time, met the right person, settled down and stayed loyal, and they’re still happily together today! Finding real love is far from impossible for you. All you need to do is believe in yourself because you are meant to find love.
So, what on earth does a Leo worry about when they get into a relationship? This sign always seems super confident and happy, and they just seem to attract people with no effort! Do they really get nervous? Well, the answer is yes — their symbol may be the lion, but they’re human beings who experience just as much anxiety as the rest of us!
Here’s what goes through a Leo’s mind when they first get into a relationship: “Oh, no, this person is going to see me in a way that no one else does. They’re going to figure out that I’m not the person who they thought I was. That I’m not as secure or perfect behind the scenes. And then it’s all going to be over.”
Leo, do you know how you’re going to boost your confidence? By facing that fear head-on.
You need to let your guard down early on in the relationship and simply allow yourself to, well, be yourself! And trust us, the person who you’re with KNOWS that you aren’t perfect — and they don’t care. Because they’re not perfect, either! And at the end of the day, they chose to be with you anyway.
Alright, Sagittarius, we know that nothing scares you more than commitment. The thought of being “tied” down with someone really freaks you out, and we understand. Going from being single and ready to mingle to suddenly being with just one person can feel a little out of character for you. But the truth is that this sign is just too charming to stay single forever — eventually, every Sagittarius guy and girl will meet someone who wants nothing more than to be with them. They are truly irresistible! But we all know that once a Sagittarius finally does get into a relationship, they have a tendency to get super nervous about the future.
So, Sagittarius, here’s your confidence booster — understand that commitment isn’t something to be afraid of. You’re not married, you don’t have kids with the person, you didn’t buy a house together — you’re just dating! You’re getting your feet wet and seeing how things go! Just take things one step at a time, and every time you find yourself getting a little antsy about the idea of commitment, remember how much you’ve already changed your mindset and how far you’ve come. You are definitely capable of being loyal and committed.
We know that it’s difficult to imagine an earth sign getting truly stressed out over anything. After all, these signs are known for being calm and reasonable at all times. And the truth is, they definitely do manage those silly little worries and anxieties that we all get from time to time better than most people. That’s just one perk of being an earth sign! But the fact of the matter is that even earth signs aren’t totally worry-free. They definitely have moments of insecurity, especially in relationships!
Now, what these signs individually worry about can be inconsistent.
Basically, a Taurus isn’t going to have the same fears as a Capricorn. While earth signs have some obvious similarities on the surface, when you dig a little deeper, they can actually be quite different. So, we’re about to dive into exactly why earth signs can get a bit nervous in relationships. And then, if you’re an earth sign, we’re going to give you exactly the confidence boost that you need to alleviate those worries and learn to just sit back, relax, and enjoy your time with that special someone. If you want to fix those pesky insecurities, just keep on reading!
Taurus, you are used to flying solo by choice. And that’s how you’re happy…most of the time. You have your comfortable routines, your daily schedule, your same mall circle of close friends — and you couldn’t imagine needing anything more! Seriously, you are the furthest thing from a hopeless romantic, and that is just fine with you! When you’re young, you usually don’t even picture yourself getting married — after all, you’re self-sufficient, so can’t you get by just fine on your own?
But eventually, you will one day meet someone who changes your mind. Someone who helps you see the beauty of being in a happy relationship. When the ball gets rolling, you’ll feel ecstatic at first — and then you’ll begin to fear that it’s all too good to be true, and you really were just meant to be alone. Taurus, if you need a confidence boost, remind yourself as many times as you need to that your significant other chose you for a reason. They chose YOU, not anyone else because you bring something special to the table. You weren’t meant to be alone or to go through life all by yourself. You were meant to be with someone you love.
Virgo, you know that you have a critical eye. You just can’t help that you seem to have been born a perfectionist! But honestly, you wouldn’t have it any other way. You want to hold yourself to a high standard and always do your best at any given moment. Simply put, you want to always make sure that you are striving to fulfill your highest potential. This is a mindset that many people do not understand, but you could not imagine living differently.
Now, this can definitely end up giving some difficulties when it comes to relationships.
Because what does a perfectionist do? Well, they have a habit of looking for flaws in everything! Even when there are no flaws to be found, they can end up convincing themselves that something MUST be wrong. Virgo, if you catch yourself trying to search for flaws in your relationship, and you’re worrying yourself sick over what might be wrong…you need to take a deep breath and let go of that perfectionist attitude for a minute. If you take a step back and look at the big picture, you will see that things are going much better than you could have ever anticipated.
Capricorn, you’re similar to Taurus in a certain way: when you realized that you were basically in love with your job, and as some would say, “married to your career,” you began to wonder if you ever ACTUALLY get married to someone. After all, do you really have time for two major commitments? Sometimes you feel like you just won’t ever be able to dedicate enough time to a relationship. You wonder if anyone would want to be with someone who is ambitious and doesn’t always have the spare time to head out for a spontaneous date or stay in and relax with Netflix.
So, if you want to nip this fear in the bud, Capricorn, here’s what you need to do: schedule a specific date night every single week, and stick to it! You may not have a ton of time to spend with your significant other during random weeknights, but trust us, where there’s a will, there’s a way. At the start of each week, plan a date night together, and make it a commitment to be there no matter what happens. You will both be on the same page about expectations, plans, and your time commitments to each other.
Air signs are notorious for being finicky and unsure about relationships. First off, you have the Geminis. Summer flings are a highlight of their year, and they don’t really care if they have someone to bring home for the holidays or not — as long as they have someone they can Netflix and chill with, it’s all good.
They love being single, playing the field, swiping right on Tinder for anyone they find remotely cute, and just generally going out and being social.
And then you have the Libras, who want everything to be picture perfect at all times (hmmm, sound familiar, Virgo?). They want to avoid conflict, they want adorable Valentine’s Day presents, and most of all, they want everyone else to know just how happy they are in the relationship — even if they’re not so happy. And last, we have Aquarius, who wavers between wanting to be single and independent forever, to wanting to find someone who fits all of their high standards and will stay with them for the rest of their lives.
Yup, dating as an air sign is no easy task. But luckily, we’re to help you figure yourself and give yourself a quick confidence boost!
Gemini, you are similar to Sagittarius in one very important way: you approach dating with the same mindset, and you are both basically terrified of commitment. So, Gemini, in your case, why is that? Is it because you don’t think you’ll be a good partner? Nope. Is it because you secretly wish you were single? Nah. It’s actually because you’re scared that even though you ARE happy, you will slip back into your old flirty ways for one moment and end up doing something you regret with a former “friend with benefits.” Yes, this is a very real Gemini fear — they worry that even if they do meet “the one,” they will not be able to break out of their old patterns.
Gemini, you want to kick this worry to the curb for good? Go ahead and delete the phone numbers of everyone you’ve had a thing within the past — if you haven’t already! Just don’t even give yourself the opportunity to slip up. It’s really as easy as that. Once you remove that possibility from your life, you will find that you do not even think of these people anymore — you only have eyes for your significant other.
Libra, you may be surprised to hear this, but you actually have quite a few things in common with Virgo! And the main trait that you two share is your tendency to be perfectionists. When you first get into a relationship, you probably have VERY high standards. We get it, you want to be treated like a princess — what girl doesn’t? Now, we’re not saying that you don’t deserve to be treated well — you totally do!
In fact, we think that all girls (and guys, too!) out there should have high expectations for their significant other, because if you’re potentially going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want to be truly happy!
However, Libra, having high standards is one thing, but expecting perfection at all times is something else entirely! When you first start noticing small flaws in your relationship, you might start to worry and think that all hope is lost! But just hold on — that’s not the case, not even close. Libra, if you want to increase your confidence in your relationship, you’ve got to drop your expectations of total perfection. It’s unrealistic, and this crazy standard will only lead to lots of disappointment.
So, Aquarius, you really like to portray yourself as someone who is totally secure in who you are, right? And most of the time, you really ARE that secure. But when you get into a relationship, that can change suddenly. Here’s the thing — you aren’t super affectionate, and you tend to hold yourself back in certain ways. It’s because you’re not only used to being independent, it’s something that you really pride yourself on. You’re so used to just handling everything on your own that suddenly having another person around and feeling like you should open up to them just seems…strange. You wonder if you’re really cut out for the relationship life, after all.
Aquarius, challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone a bit. Just let your guard down, be more affectionate, and don’t worry about how it might seem to people who knew you before. If you want to increase your confidence, you have to do things that scare you a bit — so why not try being sweet and cuddly instead of guarded? You might be surprised by how happy this makes you feel — no, it’s not your usual way of acting, but change can be good sometimes.
Water signs, you are known as the true hopeless romantics of the zodiac. You could not imagine a life without a fairytale romance. Girls born under water signs often are the ones who start planning their weddings at a young age, and they can’t help but daydream about walking down the aisle and seeing the man they will spend the rest of their lives with. Come on, who doesn’t love to daydream about that kind of thing every now and again? So, you might think that water signs feel super confident about relationships.
After all, relationships and romance are so central to their lives that you would think that being a good significant other and finding the right person just comes naturally to them.
However, this is not necessarily the case. Even water signs feel insecure in relationships sometimes! It happens to even the most romantic among us. But water signs, if you’ve just gotten into a new relationship and you’re feeling like your confidence is wavering, never fear, because as usual, we’re here to help you out. We know just what you need to do in order to focus on the positives and help bring your confidence back up.
So, Cancer, what do you get nervous about in a relationship? Well, it all has to do with your kind and compassionate nature. You worry that you won’t be able to stand up for yourself when you’re in the midst of a tough decision or difficult conversation with your significant other. You worry that the person you’re with will end up taking advantage of the fact that you can be “too nice,” and that they will start expecting you to do everything around the house. Well, it doesn’t have to be that way. Yes, you may come across people at times who treat you like this, but it doesn’t have to be like this all the time.
From day one, if you want to avoid these problems and eliminate these worries, you need to establish that you will be sharing responsibilities 50/50. If you want to boost your confidence, you gotta fake it until you make it! Just make it known from the beginning that you will not allow yourself to be walked all over. This might make you feel “mean” at first, but remember, Cancer, standing up for yourself whenever necessary does NOT make you mean, so let go of that idea.
Scorpio, you love falling in love — you are an emotional being, after all—but shortly after getting into a relationship, you become very nervous that your partner will not understand the true depth of your feelings. That they will want to run away at the first sign of conflict or sadness. That you won’t be able to express how you feel in a way that doesn’t scare them off. You know that most people don’t feel things as deeply as you do, but there is no reason that you have to carry this fear around with you forever.
Here is exactly what you need to do to eliminate this fear completely: be open and honest about your emotions from the very beginning.
Just like Cancer, you need to let your significant other know what you’re about from day one. There is no point in trying to hide who you truly are because that will simply cause more problems down the line. And eventually, your real self will be revealed in time anyway, so it’s much better just to be honest from the beginning. And if they choose to stay, you already know that they accept you for who you are.
Pisces, you are the type who can simply fall head over heels in love with one simple glance. Some people may not believe that love at first sight exists, but that’s only because those people have never met you! You know that love, at first sight, is totally real, because you seem to experience it every time that you fall for someone — you just know that you’re into them from the moment that you lay eyes on them! So, let’s say that you get into a relationship, and from day one, you’re ready to say those three magic words: “I love you!” And yet you realize that your partner is not quite there yet.
Your confidence will inevitably take a hit in this scenario — it would happen to anyone. However, if you want to get your confidence back, there is only one little thing that you have to remember: not everyone falls in love as quickly as you do, Pisces. If your significant other doesn’t feel the same way that you do just yet, it doesn’t mean that they never will! Just give them time, and they will certainly come to feel the same way — after all, you’re very charming.