Meeting new people is probably the hardest part of making friends and trying to find someone to date and (hopefully) eventually marry. It is extra hard if you are an introvert. Thanks to online dating, it is a little bit easier for us to meet new people without ever leaving the security of our homes. Although there is still the teeny tiny fact that someday we will actually have to go outside and meet our long-distance sweeties in person.
For the rest of you, you can all go out and meet new people every day without too much anxiety. Introverts everywhere envy you, but you could be making some big mistakes when you try to meet that one special guy. We aren’t talking about the color of lipstick or what kind of shoes you picked out. Instead, we are talking more along the lines of conversation starters and initial date ideas that massively flop. Being a people reader is tough but is a handy skill to have. Some guys will like a bold approach while this same tactic will scare other guys off. And then there are the hard-to-read in-between guys who just complicate everything further. To hopefully make things easier, here is a short list of top mistakes you might be making.
If you are one of those introverted Libras and you want to make an effort and a good impression, you will probably gear yourself up for some intimate eye contact. As Elite Daily describes it,
“Libras are charming and make great conversationalists. Their first move would probably come in the form of them setting the tone and making intimate eye contact to show that they mean business.”
The only problem with this is that too much eye contact is creepy. It will throw your whole flirting game off so use it sparingly, if possible. And maybe research some flirting tips while you are at it.
Big energy is a good thing most of the time, but it will scare off weaker guys and intimate the rest. It isn’t your fault, but you can take steps to mask it a little so he won’t scamper off, blinded by your brilliance. Let him open the door for you and buy you a drink first off, and then wow him with your brilliance later on once he is hooked. As Bustle says,
“Being ruled by the bright and powerful sun makes Leo incredibly warm and generous.
But the sun can also burn — and Leo might do this when they feel slighted.”
You sometimes get a bad rap for being unreliable and a bit flaky, when all you really are is very imaginative and lost in a world of your own. This can make keeping track of things like money, appointments and time very tricky for you. Making that first move will be hard on you. As Elite Daily puts it,
“Pisces are very emotional and intuitive. This water sign knows how to just go with the flow, so their first move could be just smiling and coming off as super cool and chill.
But smiling and being too cool won’t work because the other party needs actions behind that nice smile and coolness (ahem, a fire sign).”
You have patience, which can make a long chase worth it in the end, and you really don’t mind waiting. But sometimes this can backfire on you. You could spend years waiting for someone else to make the first move when you could have done it yourself to begin with. According to Elite Daily,
“Their first move could be perhaps offering you their number because they want to talk and build a rapport.
The downside to this, however, is they might want the other person to call and make the first move to spark a conversation and that might not happen if the person is reserved as well.”
The element of fire has the power to wreak massive devastation in multiple forms while still maintaining its usefulness to humanity. We use fire to warm our houses, light our rooms and cook our food. We entertain by firelight and even use it to clean up unnecessary flora and fauna as well as sterilize things in a pinch. The signs for fire are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius. According to Thought Co, “The element fire represents energy. Even though water has great earthly energy, it can’t compare with the sun’s energy, though both might be equally important to humans.”
All Sagittarians are born between November 22 and December 23, making them the sign that is all set to rock the holidays. Sagittarius is usually up for any kind of party but you have to be careful around the in-laws as they might not appreciate your unique and bold sense of humor at first. Elite Daily says,
“Sagittarians are the one of the happiest signs, and they know how to have fun. They’re also very adventurous, so their first move would probably come in the form of a challenge.
If they’re at a bar, they might task their prey to a contest.”
You are the responsible, hard-working member of the astro calendar. You get the job done and then some. Your birthday usually falls between December 22 and January 19, arguably one of the most stressful points of the year what with Christmas and the new year beginning. But this is your time to shine!
You just need to make sure you don’t scare off your potential sweetie with your workplace mindset.
Bustle says, “They are leaders at heart, and feel most comfortable in such positions. And while that may play out to their advantage at work — where they move up the corporate ladder with ease — it’s not always a healthy quality to bring home to their relationship.”
Already known for being aloof with your emotions and a great talker, when you are trying to make that key first impression, your go-to move is to wow them with your conversational skills. This might work on a shy introvert but not on a fellow talkative extrovert. Born between January 20 and February 18, you are also known for being quirky, so watch those subject choices. Elite Daily points out,
“Aquarians are great talkers and big thinkers. Their first move would come in form of talking about astrology randomly, as a way to connect on a more personal level.
They’re interested in the universe and the way it spins, so making a connection during a first move is imperative.”
No one can deny the importance of water in our lives. We bathe in it, wash our belongings in it and are constantly told to drink more of it to be healthier and happier. Water also nourishes the world around us, cleaning off the dust with rain, replenishing lakes and growing our food. The signs for water are Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces. According to Thought Co,
“Water people are said to be too emotional, but their sensitivity and fragility make them perfect therapists, helping those with deep emotional problems.
Water is a pool of endless possibility, but it’s almost impossible to find direction if there’s no contact with fire, which offers energy, passion, and direction for talents.”
On the inside, you are swirling with deep emotions and battling the initial instinct to panic and run away. If you stick with it, you will surprise yourself and find someone who likes your quiet and gentle ways. But the more powerful personalities that scare and attract you won’t make you happy. With a birthday between February 19 and March 20, you rule the peaceful phase of the calendar before spring arrives. Bustle says,
“Its often small tweaks like these that can make all the difference when it comes to having a harmonious relationship.
Each sign comes with its fair share of positives and negatives, but each trait can be balanced out, with a little effort.”
Born between March 21 and April 19, Aries rules at the height of spring. You are known for being a bit headstrong and very competitive so your first move will likely really impress the guys or come across as very bold and scare them off. It is a very fine line between the two and takes people skills to know which line to take when trying to impress someone. Elite Daily says,
“An Aries is usually direct and to the point because it’s easy for them to know what they want. They don’t like to take direction too often; they lead.
So an Aries’ first move would derive from taking action because they like to initiate.”
According to Bustle, “For Taurus, it might be all too easy for them to give off needy vibes.
Taurus tends to be needy or needs to be needed. And that can become a problem in their relationships, since it can leave their partner feeling like whatever they give is never enough.”
For you spring babies born between April 20 and May 20, coming across as needy will not make the best first impression on a guy unless he likes needy chicks or wants to be our hero. Instead, try to wow him with your cooking skills or love of the great outdoors.
Just as essential to life as water is air. Air is found in all the elements and connects them, but only earth truly balances out air and keeps it anchored to reality. According to Thought Co,
“Signs belonging to this element have strong needs to feel liberated and problems with their surroundings. Their goal often is to stop pleasing others and follow their most liberating ideas.
But their biggest challenge is to find grounding instead of remaining in higher spheres, where everything seems possible but isn’t. Airy individuals must stop talking and make concrete moves.” The signs for air are Libra, Aquarius, and Gemini.
Born between May 21 and June 20, Gemini is a flirtatious sign. According to Bustle,
“While there’s nothing inherently wrong with flirting, Gemini is one sign that can go overboard — which is something that doesn’t always fly with their partners. Gemini is so young at heart and likes to have fun and oftentimes can’t help but be flirty.”
This will be a first impression that will fly well with a lot of guys but not the great ones you really want. Too much of a good thing turns bad after all, so you will need a different way to create a nice first impression.
This summer baby arrives between June 21 and July 22, all set to shine bright like a diamond. You are a water sign and are therefore very in touch with your emotions. Because of this and your strong values of family, tradition, and security, your go-to move will be to ask the guy what he is feeling. With a shy or reserved type, this will not end well. Some fire signs likely won’t know what to do with the question either. Elite Daily says,
“Cancers are very caring and sensitive and they’re big on family.
With this caring nature, their first move would probably come in the form of asking the person how they’re feeling.”
Leos are very generous good natured people, despite the bad rep they have concerning their egos. Born between July 23 and August 22, you rule the heat of summer passion and often win. Elite Daily says,
“Of course, anyone can give a compliment, but maybe the person receiving the compliment might think the Leo has ulterior motives, or is just saying what they think the other person wants to hear.
Sometimes being too nice can be a turn off.” You probably mean those compliments but might want to take it down to two or three instead of several.
The final element which grounds us all is earth. Without earth, there would be nothing to burn, nothing to water and nothing to breathe in the air. And without earth, there would be nothing to hold all these other elements together in one place. According to Thought Co,
“Earth is the basis for our existence and materialization of our desires. But it is stiff and unmovable, needing air for balance.
Lacking earth makes finding grounding difficult. Earth signs value material things and hard work, making plans and putting them into action.” The signs for earth are Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo.
Believe it or not, Virgo, people can pick up on this tendency of yours. They notice when you straighten out napkins at the restaurant or order a very complicated drink and then complain that it doesn’t taste right. Born between August 23 and September 22, you have great organizational skills and are very detail-oriented. According to Bustle,
“Virgo’s perfectionist qualities make them partners who are wonderfully attentive to detail. But they might also make a habit of complaining when things don’t meet their standards.”
To make a good first impression, let the little things slide. He can figure out you are crazy after the wedding.
Born between September 23 and October 22, Libra is all about balance, fairness and harmony. This need for balance in life can make you a great person to be around because you are always chill, but when it’s time to make decisions, you hold up the whole process. This gives off the vibe of being a flight risk for a lot of guys. According to Popsugar,
“It’s that same desire for fairness which can cause the Libra lover to be indecisive when making important decisions.
The Libra wants to consider every possible scenario, making it hard to finalize some choices, like buying a home, where to get married, or even what kind of take out to get.”
Born between October 23 and November 21, Scorpio is old-school, loyal, and intense. This makes for an interesting combination. While part of you probably wants him to do all the work of wooing you, another part of you is all for getting his attention and owning it. As Elite Daily puts it,
“This move might not work because it might come across as too generic. Someone like an Aries (who is known to be drawn to Scorpios) might not appreciate such a generic compliment, considering all the unique flairs Aries has to offer.”
You will likely need to think up some really unique compliments to get Aries’ attention.