Relationships are hard, but sometimes we are unconsciously sabotaging the very best thing in our life simply because of what our Zodiac sign is. Many of us just can’t help ourselves when it comes to some of those forbidden delights that are our weaknesses. Sort of like dark chocolate and romantic movies for the romance-addicts, or all those beautifully bound books and journals screaming to be touched and purchased in Barnes and Noble. So, tempting.
But if we’re aware of our faults and trigger points based on what our sign is, then we’re forewarned and forearmed to defeat any relationship sabotaging that might occur on our end. Not sure about your sweetie but maybe forwarding him or her this article with a winky face emoji and an invitation to read it and discuss later while snuggled in bed might work wonders. It’ll at least get their attention, and that’s a good start. In the meantime, why don’t you get comfy on the couch or at your desk with a little snack and find out more about your sign and your sweetie’s sign to avoid pitfalls and maybe finally have an answer as to why they can be just so weird.
These wet and watery signs are very capable of making the best sweetie around. They’re highly in-tune with their own emotions (sometimes to the destructive point of being too emotional), and they’re very nurturing which makes us feel loved and safe with them.
Water signs as mothers are particularly empathic to their children’s aches and pains, joys and enthusiastic pursuits, all while providing a safe nurturing environment for them to grow in. Men who are a water sign are in demand in relationships because you guys are really connected to your emotions and understand better than other guys what we’re feeling and trying to communicate.
This gives you an edge in the relationship zone of life.
According to Astrology, “Water signs feel most fulfilled when they are helping others, and they do so in an enchanting, considerate and even romantic way.”
Your best bet for a career is one that is people-central with a focus on helping others. Teaching, nursing, counseling jobs — related in any way to children come to mind. But don’t forget to take time out for yourself and remember, brooding is attractive, but if you do it all the time then it gets old fast.
Cancer heads up the water signs, being the cardinal, which opens the season of summer quite nicely. Those who are born between June 21st and July 22nd are likely to be tenacious, moody, imaginative, loyal, pessimistic, emotional, suspicious, sympathetic, persuasive, and insecure in varying degrees of depth and intensity. Tradition is very important to Cancer signs, and you’ll want to create and preserve your favorites with your own budding family which can be a drag to other signs depending on their level of interest in Friday night always being pizza night.
Cancer signs are also prone to making unhealthy compromises to the point of picking out a partner they probably shouldn’t have chosen (a reflection of the tiny crab taking on the world and then realizing they might’ve bitten off more than they can chew, perhaps?). According to Elite Daily, you’ll sabotage your relationship by smothering your partner with love and attention. “You also want to take care of your girlfriend or boyfriend all of the time, which is sweet at first, but it leads to some serious resentments.” There’s a reason your best compatibility is with Capricorn or Taurus and not a more independent-focused sign like Leo or Aries.
Born at the fullness of Autumn between October 23rd and November 21st, Scorpio is a fixed sign and one of the most passionate of the Zodiac. If you’re one of these lucky scorpions of life, you’ll likely be resourceful, distrusting, brave, passionate, jealous, secretive, stubborn, violent, but also, a true friend.
Because you’re brave, you’ll have lots of friends who will describe you as one of their best friends, loyal to a fault and fierce.
You’ll be an excellent leader due to being so resourceful, but you’ll probably struggle with how differently people behave, along with your own jealousy and suspicious mind. According to Bustle, you’ll sabotage your relationship with your jealousy issue, among others. “Intense jealousy isn’t the only demon Scorpio has to battle. They tend to build resentment toward others (especially romantic partners), which can have a really damaging effect on their overall well-being.”
Depression is an old enemy of Scorpios and can lead to other self-destructive behaviors if left unchecked. You’re most compatible with Taurus and Cancer who can help balance out your passion and intensity with some grounded thinking and empathic feelings. As a parent, you’ll work hard to keep your children and keep their lives balanced which is great.
The mutable and final sign of water, Pisces rolls around February 19th to March 20th, finishing off winter with a hint of calm and peace before spring bursts in on the scene with crazy new growth everywhere and tons of energy.
Often overlooked in the grand scheme of the Zodiac calendar, you Pisces are highly important to rounding out the rest of us and adding balance to our hectic, crazy extremes of passion and moodiness. You’re more likely to be compassionate, overly trusting, artistic, fearful, sad, intuitive, gentle, wise, musical, looking to escape reality and prone to the temptation of becoming a victim or martyr.
When you’re in love, you love deeply for a long time. Your tendency to be a victim or martyr can stab you in the back at times, especially in the role of mom when you do all the housework because, frankly, if you died all these lazy slobs would miss you and then where would they find clean socks? According to Bustle, you’ll sabotage your relationship by your need to escape reality when things get tough. “Pisces isolates and flakes out, and while that seems just fine in Pisces land, your relationship is made completely crazy by your lack of groundedness.”
Ah, fire signs, the most passionate and brightest burning stars in the Zodiac calendar. You have the drive and passion for ruling the world but you’ll burn everyone else up in the attempt if you’re not careful.
The fire signs are Aries, Leo and Sagittarius and you guys and gals are the powerhouses meant to move and shake the world to its foundations, hopefully changing it for the better.
According to Astrology Zodiac Signs, “This is the element that represents energy itself, and even though there is a lot of earthly energy in the element of Water, it cannot be compared with the amount of energy that lives in the Sun, even though they might be equally important to the human race.”
It’s no wonder then that the fire signs in our lives are just so full of energy that they are exhausting to be around unless we can match their intensity. Or at least, keep up in sprints when we need to. You fire signs can make amazing lovers that we’ll never forget but you’re very hard to pin down and settle for anything long term which is sad but it’s not necessarily your fault. You’re just the way you are.
Born at the beginning of spring between March 21st and April 19th, Aries is cardinal and suits the high energy of spring bursting forth to re-grow and claim the land perfectly. Those of you with this sign are likely to be courageous, determined, confident, impatient, moody, short-tempered, impulsive, enthusiastic, optimistic, aggressive, honest and passionate.
Aries rules the head, and you’ll often walk with your head leading the way (physically and metaphorically). You’re excellent at multitasking and can burn through mountains of work that people half your age can’t even shift due to your energy and strength that defies age.
Unfortunately for you, it’s your impulsiveness which will be your relationship’s undoing. According to Elite Daily, “You won’t think about the consequences. In fact, you won’t think at all. You’ll be blinded by lust and will abandon the love of your life just because you got swept away in a moment that wasn’t even real.”
Arguably, this sounds like it applies to men more than to women, but we women are very capable of being impulsive (see: impulsive shopping purchase for more information on this). We’re most compatible with Libra and Leo, both of whom won’t take kindly to being ditched for a fling.
Fixed for the height of summer with a heat to match, Leo rules between July 23rd and August 22nd. You’re more likely to be passionate, arrogant, creative, stubborn, generous, self-centered, warm-hearted, lazy, cheerful, inflexible and humorous. Your qualities tend to outweigh your faults, and you’ll find yourself surrounded by friends who’re attracted to your shining loyalty and sense of humor.
You take the initiative to solve problems in complicated situations, and you thrive on this little thing called life!
To successfully be a partner to the Leo in your life, you need to be self-aware, reasonable, don’t organize their stuff and be able to fight for your needs and wants when your Leo gets too involved in their own world to pay attention to yours. Unfortunately for you, Leo, you’re always looking for something better. According to Your Tango, “As a Leo, it’s your way or the highway. It’s always been this way. You’re constantly ruining relationships by always needing everything to go your way. You’re terrible at mixing in compromise because your ideas are always better. You need to have things go your way, and if somebody doesn’t go along with that, you kick them to the curb.”
Finishing off fire and autumn at the same time, Sagittarius comes in at November 22nd and leaves by December 21st —sometimes with a bang but usually by just slipping quietly in and out of the back door while everyone else is partying. The holidays are an excellent time for sneaking around. You Sagittarius are more likely to be generous, idealistic, very impatient, have a great sense of humor, tend to promise more than you can deliver and no matter how undiplomatic it may be, you’ll probably say it anyway. Talk about that foot-in-mouth thing, huh?
Because you’re sometimes impatient and tactless, you’ll need to work hard at your relationships so you don’t say something out of line and offend someone. And you value your independence more than anything which could cause some distress to your partner and put a strain on the relationship. You’re most compatible with Gemini and Aries rather than clingy Cancer. Your lack of tact will sabotage your relationship. According to Bustle, “Having no tact means you probably don’t have manners. This, more often than not, leads to lack of respect and trust. People will not take them seriously.” Also, the in-laws don’t get your sense of humor, sadly.
Earth contains life, and Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn signs. These signs are rooted, grounded, practical and no-nonsense types that balance and provide stability in an ever-shifting ever-changing environment. Their opposite is air, which is ever moving, changing, invisible, and very hard to grasp in order to make into something solid. Just like fire and water are opposites and very capable of consuming each other, so too are earth and air except that instead of consuming each other, earth signs will miss out on the joys and new worlds that air signs can introduce to them.
Earth signs are the hard workers of the world and make the best friends and most loyal of companions.
Unlike other signs, they’re in a relationship for the long haul and are steady as a rock when times get tough. Unfortunately, you’re also very stubborn. As Astrology Zodiac Signs puts it, “This is a somewhat complicated element because it is stiff and unmovable, especially when a person has a lot of planets in it, but not enough of them in the element of Air to balance it out.” We’ll find ourselves in the position of can’t live with you, can’t live without you.
Capricorns are cardinal and launch winter with a bang between December 22nd and January 19th. You thrive in the trying times of winter (metaphorically if you’re from an area with no snow) and you settle down comfortably focused on those New Year’s goals and work routines after all the hectic partying and chaos of the holidays quite nicely. You’re most likely highly responsible, disciplined, self-control, good managers, a bit of a know-it-all, unforgiving, condescending — and always expecting the worst even if it never shows up.
Once someone has broken down your walls and won your attention and affections, your heart melts, and you’ll love them for the rest of your life — whether they’re in it or not. You’re also hard-working to the point of being a workaholic. You’ll sabotage your relationship in different ways, one of which Your Tango says is your emotional walls. “You ruin your relationships by not being open with your significant other. They feel like they need to squeeze any sort of information or emotion out of you painfully and it causes them to feel like you’re hiding things from them.” Other times you might put your career ahead of your relationship which never works out.
Ah, Taurus, we love you, but sometimes we wonder about you. Born to rule Spring with a dirty earthy fist and two green thumbs. our reign extends from April 20th to May 20th. If you’re a bull-headed Taurus, you’ll likely be very reliable, patient, practical, devoted, responsible, stable, very stubborn, possessive and uncompromising. You’re also very physical, which is great in relationships and means that with the right training, you’ll blow our minds in numerous physical and romantic ways.
You tend to focus on the material side of things — which is fine, until it becomes all-consuming and turns into greed and a desire to always own the best of the best.
One way in which your stubbornness comes in handy is when you need to complete a task no matter what, and you surprise everyone by doggedly sticking with it till it’s finished (usually sooner than everyone estimated it would be too). Unfortunately, it’ll either be your stubbornness or uncompromising which will sabotage your relationship. As Bustle puts it, “Taurus’ biggest downfall? Being too stubborn, too often. In a healthy relationship, both partners should be able to admit when they’re wrong, and compromise when necessary — so take note, Taurus.”
Virgo is mutable and rounds out the earth signs, reigning peacefully from August 23rd to September 22nd. Just long enough to close out summer and give autumn a fond kiss of appreciation before vanishing in a puff of dust. If you’re a Virgo, you’ll likely be loyal, analytical, kind, hardworking, practical, prone to shyness, worry, a bit overly critical of self and others and very much a part of the ‘all work and no play’ club.
You’re great to have around, and you don’t really go in for flings and things, making you excellent long-term commitment material once you’ve made your poor partner draw you out of your shell and reassure you that you’re safe and extremely loved.
You’re quite a lot of work in that department but very worth it, and you make a nice safe lover. But you’ll sabotage your relationship by being critical and uncompromising, with a dash of control issues. As Bustle states, “It’s totally unrealistic to expect your partner to never mess up, and it puts a serious strain on the relationship. Virgo’s need to have everything perfect can also mean they a tendency to be controlling — they hate the idea of someone else taking the wheel and potentially messing things up.”
Rounding out the elements and intermixing with them all to blend and smooth out or ruffle their feathers and ignite them is Air. Air contains Gemini, Libra, Aquarius, which are equal to water in being essential to life as we know it.
Air signs are generally people pleasers — which slowly destroys us until there’s nothing left or we finally break free and scream that we’re done dealing with everyone’s problems.
Then we’re called names behind our backs as we try to focus on our own needs, desires and ideas for a change instead of always catering to everyone else. This makes parenting as an air sign extra tricky; it’s very easy to let those tiny tyrants rule our lives completely.
As Astrology Zodiac Signs describes us, “The distance from the nature of Earth lifts us up high, in impractical and mental planes that don’t satisfy our physical needs. Still, this is the element that can be found in all others, keeps the fire going just like the Sun burns hydrogen. We may say that the beginning of life wouldn’t be possible without Fire, but there would be no Fire on our planet without Air.” We’re definitely important in this game.
Libra is cardinal and greets autumn with a stylish burst of enthusiasm and genuine joy between September 23rd and October 22nd. Libra will wrap you up and drag you around to show off their world which is like nothing you’ve ever seen before. If you’re a Libra you’ll likely be cooperative, diplomatic, gracious, fair-minded, social, indecisive, avoid confrontations, carry a grudge, and prone to self-pity.
Libras will flirt with almost anyone and make us all feel special no matter who we are. They’re sugar sweet to the point where some people take advantage of them but when push comes to shove, a Libra can hold their own and we should all run if one goes on the warpath. They’ll explode with a vengeance and unleash years of pent-up damage in one powerful blow. When the ashes clear, Libra will be gone.
There are a couple ways you could sabotage your relationships, but most likely it’ll be an overreaction.
As Your Tango puts it, “Your relationships are ruined by your sensitive nature. It causes you to lash out and pick fights that shouldn’t be picked. You constantly feel like you’re being attacked which transpires into you coming back swinging.”
Aquarius is fixed and stable, ruling the heart of winter with an equally cool glance and a deft hand at getting what they want from life. If you’re an Aquarius, you’ll likely be progressive, original, independent, a humanitarian, likely to run from emotional expression, temperamental, uncompromising, and aloof.
You’re a master communicator, but you’ll have trouble making friends because you need time to get close to them and feel safe before letting them in and making yourself vulnerable. Intellectual stimulation will turn you on more than anything else, so a partner who is equally intelligent will win your heart (even if it takes you forever to admit it to them).
You’ll sabotage your relationship in several likely ways, but the most likely will be your emotional aloofness and dislike of making yourself vulnerable. As Bustle puts it, “There’s nothing worse than a partner who’s emotionally distant and closed off, and Aquarius is definitely guilty of shutting their partner out when they’re upset or angry.” It’s all fine and dandy to be able to turn off your emotions and focus on the task in front of you, but this isn’t healthy for your relationship. Learn to trust and be vulnerable.
Gemini is mutable and wraps up the air signs and spring in one massive swoop. If you’re a Gemini, you’ll likely be gentle, affectionate, curious, adaptable, have the ability to learn quickly and exchange ideas, and be nervous, inconsistent and indecisive.
Luckily for you, you’re better known for your favorable qualities than you are for your faults (unlike some other hotheaded signs we won’t mention).
But you do have your faults and the little quirks that make you the way you are while providing annoyance or work for your partner. Still, as air signs go, you’re pretty golden. The biggest way you’ll likely sabotage your relationship is in that persistent little feeling that your other half is out there and you have to go on a quest to find them, no matter how good life is right now where you are.
As Your Tango states, “You’re ruining your relationships by thinking the grass might be greener somewhere else; instead, try watering where you are right this moment. You won’t find success in love until you let go of the idea that someone else is out there waiting for you.” You’ll throw away something good for the hope of finding something even better, when that elusive element doesn’t necessarily exist.