Will you know it when you find them?
Have you found your soulmate? From an early age, we’re taught that we not only deserve a soulmate but that somewhere out there our soulmate is waiting for us and that it’s only a question of time that we find them.
However, it’s actually extremely difficult to find that person who (for lack of a better word) completes you.
The dictionary describes a soulmate as someone who is ideally suited to you as a close friend or a romantic partner, though other definitions seem to feel that most of the time a soulmate is a romantic partner with the ability to have great s*x.
A soulmate shares our deepest desires and our vision of the future. They are our biggest supporters, advocates, and fans. They want us to succeed in achieving our dreams and will do whatever they can to help us.
With a soulmate, you don’t have to pretend to be stronger than you are or less emotional because they accept you as you are and you’re safe to show them your true self. They understand more than the words you say or your body language; they are gifted in interpreting your emotional language and know what you’re saying even if your words say something entirely different.
Instinctively, you know that your relationship is worth fighting for and you’ll do anything to make sure that it stays healthy. You’re secure enough to be apart but being together is everything.
But a soulmate doesn’t just come into your life because you’re luckier than most people, they come into your life for a reason, even if you never discover what that reason is. Perhaps you need to learn a lesson or maybe you just need to feel supported as you navigate your life.
Whatever the reason, be grateful for your soulmate because they are a precious gift.
You need a soulmate who can stand up to you and challenge you. You don’t need someone who passively stands by while you make foolhardy decisions, you need someone who is on the same page as you and is ready for anything. You need your soulmate to be a true partner and someone who will encourage you to grow. You don’t want to go down to their level, you want to go up to theirs.
Honestly, you need a soulmate who will light a fire under your ass. You tend to be complacent and have no problems keeping things as they are, but ultimately, that’s not good for you. You need a soulmate who totally gets you and sees your potential even if you don’t. You may be happy staying at home and working at the same job for thirty years, but your soulmate sees bigger things on the horizon for you.
You need a soulmate who will ground you. You have so many ideas and flights of fancy that it’s hard to get you to focus in on one thing. You need someone who can provide stability for you and let you go off on your creative tangents without worry. Your soulmate is your rock and gives you a stable foundation so that you feel safe enough to soar.
What you need in a soulmate is someone that you can share all your emotions with, at any time, and is someone who will not judge you. They’re your best friend, your significant other, your therapist, and your parent all rolled into one person. They’re always there when you need them leading with a compassionate heart.
You need a soulmate that lets you take off the mask that you put on for everybody else and be your real self. Most of the time you have no problem being the highly entertaining center of attention, though you do feel a certain amount of pressure to be your best whenever you’re around people. But your soulmate sees the real you and accepts that you’re not perfect. They accept that you’re human and that the only person you owe anything to is yourself.
You need a soulmate who helps you to accept and love yourself. You tend to be extra hard on yourself for your mistakes and failings, so you need somebody who can show you how worthy of love and admiration you are and how being insecure is a waste of your energy.
You need a soulmate that helps you to appreciate being alone. You like to have people around you all the time so when you get involved with someone, you tend to get grasping and needy. Your soulmate shows you that you are enough and that being by yourself can be just as fulfilling and enjoyable as being with other people. When you’re okay with being by yourself, you become more independent and self-sufficient.
The most important thing that you need in a soulmate is someone you can trust. You don’t trust people easily and it hurts you. You’re afraid that if you make a mistake and allow someone to see who you really are, they’ll reject you. You need someone who makes you feel that they’re worth taking a chance on and opening up your heart. Although you’re a strong person, you need a soulmate who will help you acknowledge your strength.
You need a soulmate who is flexible and doesn’t fear change but enjoys it. You don’t want someone who never wants to do anything or go anywhere, as you’d have no patience for that. You need someone who appreciates and shares your wanderlust. You need a soulmate who also craves adventure and knows the value of having experiences.
You need a soulmate who can see the real you. You may come across as predictable, conservative, and rigid but the truth is that you are so much more than all that. You have a lot going on under the surface and you need someone who will take the time to get to know you and appreciate you. When you have someone in your corner, you’ll be able to let loose and expand your world.
You need a soulmate who condemns your ideas as irrational and foolish but supports you, even when other people have decided that your thinking is too unconventional and bizarre. Your ideal soulmate is your advocate and supports you even when everyone else doubts you.
You need a soulmate who inspires and supports you. When you’re able to connect with someone on a deep emotional level, you’re able to express yourself creatively and you have a more positive mindset. You tend to get wrapped up in negative feelings when you feel alone.