Guys might act like breaking up isn’t a big deal, but some of them feel like you literally ripped their hearts out and dropped it at their feet before cruelly walking out of their lives forever. The honest truth is that some guys really do react that strongly when they’re broken up with, while others are able to brush it off like it’s no big deal – at least they make it look like it doesn’t affect them that deeply. How can you tell if your ex is handling the breakup in a healthy way or if he’s struggling just to get out of bed in the morning? The answers are a lot closer than you might think. All you have to do is turn your eyes to the stars!
They see everything that’s happening on our tiny planet and they try to tell us what’s going on with their very specific movements. They just want to help, so why not take a minute to listen? Turn to them and learn about yourself and others. In this case, we’ll investigate what the stars have to say about men and how they handle breakups. Are they on the verge of tears or dancing with joy? Let’s find out!
When you hurt a water sign, you hurt them deeply. They may not show it to your face, but behind closed doors they’re taking the breakup really badly. Their pain doesn’t stop at their heart, it bleeds into their everyday life, causing them to become more irritable over small things. This is one of the few signs they’re upset though, since they’re so good at hiding what’s bothering them. In fact, when a water sign is going through a breakup, the only ones who even notice are his closest friends and family members. They’re so resistant to the idea of openly sharing their wounds with others that it winds up taking them more time than most to get over their issues, so if you plan on breaking up with a Cancer, Pisces or Scorpio, try to go easy on him.
It’s crazy how busy Cancer men suddenly become when their girls leave them. All of a sudden, he’s got more time for the activities he loved but she never wanted to do. While he won’t take to social media to post about his hiking trip or the random cruise ship he boarded at the last minute, he’ll definitely have plenty of excuses up his sleeve to keep from hanging out with other couples. He doesn’t mind slowly getting over the loss of the relationship over dinner with friends or a card night, but what he does mind is the constant reminder of what he doesn’t have any more when he’s with couples who keep gazing into each other’s eyes and holding hands when they’re walking around. Bleh!
The relationship was great and she was the girl of his dreams. He was even planning to propose, but suddenly she decides to break off the relationship. No biggie, right? WRONG! Pisces guys were ready to go all-in with the relationship and she jumped ship before he even had a chance to tell her how much she meant to him. Mega bummer. Pisces men are usually so disappointed and hurt that they do whatever it takes to forget she ever existed, let alone the fact that he loved her enough to purchase an engagement ring. Pisces are the kinds of guys who throw away all reminders he ever knew her. All mementos are tossed into the garbage and he does his best to erase all memories of her entirely by building over them with memories of friends and family instead. His methods may be unorthodox, but they get him through.
While the rest of the zodiac handles the breakup with a sense of finality, the Scorpio man takes things in a different direction. He doesn’t try to move on, he tries to work things out. He knows the relationship is over, she said she didn’t want to be with him romantically, after all, but that doesn’t mean he can’t harbor hope that she changes her mind. A Scorpio wants to stay friends after a breakup in the hopes that he can show her how much he’s changed and grown since they last dated. He knows all of her likes and quirks, so getting her to fall back in love with him should be a snap, right? Well, not necessarily, but at least he does his best!
The great thing about Air signs, Aquarius, Gemini, and Libra, is their strong relationship skills. They’re rational, social, great at communicating and know how to enjoy themselves. While the other three elements tend to stand strongly in one corner, Air signs are able to flit around, never really existing in any one extreme state over another. They’re well balanced, which makes them extremely popular, but when it comes to a breakup, they’re just as susceptible to pain as the rest. They know they’ve got to at least pretend to keep their chins up because everyone is watching them, but that doesn’t mean they can hold up the facade once they’re behind closed doors. Like most popular types, Air signs try to blow off the breakup and seem like they’re alright, but that isn’t always the case.
When an Aquarius has to deal with a breakup, he doesn’t throw a tantrum, demand answers or wallow in regret – he springs into action. While others might struggle through a breakup, Aquarius men set out to discover whether his ex was cheating or if she’s already into someone else. He’ll “coincidentally” show up at the same movie she’s at, drive by her house to check out whose car is in her driveway, or “accidentally” call her. While none of these super creepy behaviors present themselves during the relationship, they almost magically appear once he’s had his heart broken. He gets over it quickly and tries to find any reason he can to hate his ex, even if it means he’s got to take a serious blow to his pride.
Gemini men know when a relationship is over. They don’t try to win her heart back or cry themselves to sleep at night, they just deal with it and move on as best they can. Initially, this means he needs to take a step back from being the social butterfly he naturally is, and he needs to listen to a little emo music while holed up in his home where no one can witness the harsh reality – that he needs just a little bit of time to struggle before he’s ready to face all the questions his friends and family are waiting to ask. He knows he’ll have to admit he isn’t with his ex anymore and he doesn’t want to break down while he explains the situation, so he hangs out alone, prepares for the onslaught of questions, then moves forward.
Libra men are great at faking it ’til they are making it. He isn’t going to hide alone in his room, he’s going to post pictures of himself smiling with the hashtag #FreeAtLast. He’s going to pretend he couldn’t wait for the relationship to be over and he’s so excited to get back into dating random women for a while. He’ll claim it’s liberating, that he thinks she was cheating anyway, or that he’s ready for change, but the truth is he’s just trying to hide the fact that she hurt him and the only way to move forward is to convince himself that she was never good enough for him anyway. Suddenly he’s posting all his smiling pics and group outings over social media and no one thinks to second-guess his motives. Smart.
If you know anything about your fire element, you know people with fire signs are passionate and extremely touchy. They’re quick to anger but their redeeming quality is that they’re also quick to forgive. You may hurt an Aries, Leo or Sagittarius, and they may go through a transition period where they can’t quite control their pain, but they do get over it and move on after they’ve burned enough energy stressing about it. Their strength isn’t confined to the physical realm, they’ve also got a lot going on mentally. They’re smart, idealistic people who understand not everything can be controlled. So what do they do instead? They rampage until the hurt disappears and is replaced by a calm silence that allows them to collect themselves and move on.
Breakups may get an Aries fired up, but when the moment passes, it passes. Unlike the Libra guy, when an Aries says he’s over it, he really is. He doesn’t have to pretend he’s doing alright because he really is. To be honest, he always held her at arm’s length anyway because he expected the breakup to happen from the start. There’s no reason to care so much when she’s just a temporary fling anyway, right? While this attitude isn’t necessarily the healthiest, the upside is he doesn’t have to hurt as much when the breakup finally comes. In fact, he can enjoy it and move on to the next girl, already prepared to let her go. It’s only after he’s reached a certain point in his life that he’ll be ready to find the woman of his dreams, but until then, he figures he’ll have a little fun first.
When a Leo winds up alone, he isn’t a passionate ball of fire, he becomes a sad, watered-down little plant, desperate for some sunshine and fresh air. He knows his relationship wasn’t going well and he knew she was going to break it off but that knowledge doesn’t really help him handle it. He stresses about the relationship long after it’s ended, choosing to live in the cold ashes of what they once had instead of setting out to start a new spark of emotion. While he does go through a small depression spell, Leos are fast to recover. It only takes a few weeks and he’s right back on his feet, bringing his A-game. So he’s single again, no big deal. There will always be other women, so why stress about one who didn’t stick around anyway?
Sagittarius men don’t like it when a woman decides to leave him. His temper explodes and he throws his little man tantrum, providing an excellent reason for her to take off in the first place. No one should have to deal with a roller coaster ride of emotion. Sagittarius men will fume for a few days, blaming the failed relationship entirely on their ex, then once they’re satisfied and firmly believe the breakup was in no way due to any of his own faults, he chooses to “take the high road” by forgiving her for every mistake she ever made in the relationship. He accepts that she just wasn’t ready to handle him and then he makes the conscious decision to find someone more up to par the next time.
As grounded as the earth signs can be, they’re sort of wild cards when it comes to their emotions. Virgo, Taurus, and Capricorn are all known for how they try to control situations, but when it comes to breakups, there is no real control. Either someone likes you or they don’t. There’s no rhyme or reason to it, it’s just how they feel. Knowing they can’t control the other person’s emotions makes earth signs really struggle to handle the sudden breakup. They want to know why things didn’t work out and what they could have done better. They can’t just let the fact that they’re now single drop – they have questions and they’re wanting answers that their ladies might not be willing or even able to provide. Times are certainly tough for earth signs during breakups.
Virgos want to feel like they control situations. When a person breaks up with them, they’re confused. Even if they see the breakup coming, Virgo men have some serious control issues and they don’t like seeing the end of a relationship without some kind of explanation. He’ll want to know why she doesn’t want to stay with him anymore, where things went wrong, how he could have prevented it, and why she didn’t say anything to him earlier when the relationship might have been salvageable. It’s not that he can’t handle it – he’s doing that just fine – but he wants to dissect the reasons behind it. In a Virgo man’s mind, if he can see where the relationship went wrong this time, he’ll learn from it and have a better next relationship. He isn’t heartbroken, he’s just curious.
A Taurus guy is deeply affected by breakups. In fact, he’s one of those guys who goes to his room to cry it out and if that means he needs to sob into a pillow, then so be it. After his initial breakdown, Taurus guys are able to push past the pain (slightly) and start thinking about every little incident that may have led to the breakup. Did he ever make her cry? How many times had she asked him to throw the trash and he forgot? Did he ever hurt her or embarrass her? How could the breakup have been prevented? While he looks back with regret, constantly reliving every imperfect moment, it’s hard for him to move forward. It definitely takes a Taurus guy a lot longer than most to get over the breakup.
Capricorn men are so broken by breakups that they can’t even think about moving on right away. They tend to wallow in self-pity and regret for far too long. Literally. Months can go by before a Capricorn is able to look at another woman, not just because his emotions are still unstable but also because he’s afraid of getting hurt again. Capricorn needs that extra time to heal from the broken relationship and they also need to reflect on their choices, their ex’s choices and, ultimately, the circumstances surrounding the eventual breakup. He knows the relationship is behind him but he definitely carries the regret and lessons with him for the rest of his life. The only up-side for a Capricorn guy is that he’s ready for the next relationship and is willing to put in the extra effort his next girl deserves.