At some point in our dating lives, we have to wonder just what it is we bring to the table. This is something that we think about when it comes to our jobs, our friends, our families, and more. However, we always tend to come back to this most often in our romantic relationships. After all, the things we bring to the table in other situations might mean a lot more or a lot less in the dating world depending on who you’re dealing with. One person you like might appreciate or understand what you bring to the table a lot more than another person, and while that can be discouraging, it doesn’t mean that what you bring to the table doesn’t have value. What actually matters is that you know the person that you are and the good and bad things you bring to the relationship. That way, you can find someone who is most compatible with you.
Everyone brings something good and something bad to the table: that’s a big part of what makes us human. Nobody’s perfect, and for romantic relationships, that’s kind of the point. Just like you bring things to the table, the other person does too, which is why we often put so much importance on the compatibility of different zodiac signs. Date someone too different from you and you risk not understanding each other, but date someone too similar and you might find yourself not learning from each other and growing as people. Regardless, in order for you to know whether that person you want to date is right for you, you need to know who you are and what you bring to the table. With that, here are the pros and cons of dating your zodiac sign. Make sure to check out your moon sign as well to get an added perspective!
When you’re dating an Aries, you can’t help but be attracted to their passionate spirit. The thing about this sign is that it’s a fireball at heart: you’re never going to give them a dull moment. You’re certainly never going to bother with being indecisive for no reason: either something is worth putting your all into or it’s not. Your enthusiasm for basically everything is unparalleled and it’s impossible for you to be bored for long periods of time. You’re the type of person who would go out of their way to make new date nights for your partner and make it so the two of you always have something to do. Your sign is also well known for being quick-witted and straightforward, so you’re not going to have any problems with communication.
The problem with dating an Aries is probably something that you’ve come head-to-head with during your dating history: you’re so hard on yourself that you push people away. More importantly, you’re hard on yourself at any point where things are just not going your way or when you can’t make something fun and exciting. This means that you might have a problem with the parts of relationships that can’t be considered the fun or easy parts. You hate being vulnerable, so you’d rather push people away than do the thing that seems far scarier to you: admit that you sometimes need help. It just goes to show that the level of excitement you bring to a relationship comes with a severe drawback.
If you’re a Taurus, chances are your romantic partners are the type that will always feel safe with you. You’re the best at cuddling and physical bu innocent affection: your partner will wake up in the morning and never feel alone with you. As a Taurus, you kind of consider it your duty to be more than a boyfriend or a girlfriend, you want to be part of their support system in an even more permanent way. You want to take care of the people around you, especially the people you say you love, and that goes far beyond the relationship status. It is a known fact that Taureans are some of the best cooks the zodiac will ever know, and chances are you know your way around the concept of taking care of a household, making you prime marriage material.
You’re quite the homemaker when you want to be, but your major relationship downside is that you’re the literal embodiment of the term “bull-headed.” Your sign is represented by a bull for a reason, you know. You’re by far the most stubborn of all the signs by a long shot thanks to your Fixed quadruplicity and your personality in general. If you get into an argument with your partner, you’re going to do everything possible to win that argument, even if it’s to the detriment of your relationship. This isn’t because you feel the need to win everything (well, maybe a little bit), it’s just because when you’re particularly motivated to, you’re going to plant your feet and demand that the world moves around you. This can be a really effective way of dealing with people, but it can be terrible for a relationship. On top of that, you have a penchant for laziness and would rather look strong than share your feelings.
As a Gemini, you’re the person people are most likely to be looking for if they’re looking for a sapiosexual, a person who is attracted to intelligence first and foremost. Not only are you smart enough to know a lot of things, you’re sociable and personable enough to be able to talk about those things in a way that gets people interested in you. You’re a great communicator and know how to make people laugh, and the people you date are always blown away by your quick wit and sharp mind. You might be the type to ghost on someone if you’re not being intellectually stimulated by the relationship, which is why it’s important for you to find someone that fascinates you as much as you fascinate the people around you. You’re also very selfless and tend to put the needs of your partner above your own needs.
On the other hand, you’re a person whose mind is going so fast, you overthink everything. You end up overwhelming yourself by making mountains out of molehills and generally dissolving into a puddle of moodiness, which makes you prone to mood swings. At your worst, your partner will literally be unable to figure out what side of you they’re going to see that day. You tend to get upset at your partners for reasons that make perfect sense to you and your overthinking but will probably bewilder your partner a little bit. To make matters worse, sometimes you come off like a know-it-all, which can make you seem a little annoying to people who don’t know how to handle your kind of intelligence. Remember to go with your gut and to take a breath and a moment before going off on an emotional tangent.
Say what you will about this Water sign, but you treat every relationship you’re ever in with the utmost respect and reverence. You’re the sign that’s most likely to be cool with a long-term commitment right away, and that’s great! You’re also a person who’s kind of a locked box when it comes to keeping secrets. Whenever someone needs to confide in a person they trust, chances are that person they call on is you. This means that you’re a person they can trust. You actually tend to hold the other person in such a high regard that you need to learn how to see them as people and not as an ideal, but you always learn that lesson somewhere down the line. You’re also very family oriented and put the people you love first all the time, something that anyone you date will appreciate.
The thing about this sign is that while they’re committed to the people in their lives, almost to a fault, that commitment can be so absolute that you might simply refuse to argue about anything, even if it’s important to you, essentially “doormating” yourself. You’re so afraid of conflict that you’d rather give everyone what they want and not acknowledge anything you want just so you can keep things on an even keel. This isn’t healthy and it’s definitely behavior you’re going to have to grow out of at some point. On top of that, you’re highly emotional, even moody: your feelings tend to swing on a pendulum and you can go back and forth between different moods at a rapid pace all day. This is why while you’re a person who loves your people, you still need a good deal of personal space so you can function.
As a Leo, you know the effect you have on people. You are probably one of the most attractive people you know, and the people around you can’t help but agree. Regardless of your gender, you’re the type to keep the party going, and the party doesn’t stop until you walk in. You have an incredibly strong personality that sets you apart from the pack, and people who are attracted to you can’t help but fall for you hard and fast. You love making great memories with your romantic partners and you will make sure that your partner never experiences a dull moment at any point with you. On top of that, you’re extremely generous: your partners are generally showered with all of the gifts, affection, and experiences they could ever ask for with you.
With all of those pros come some pretty significant cons, though. As a Leo, you’re not really known for being sensitive to other people’s feelings. You know how to make people feel good, but you can also make people feel terrible without meaning to, making you come off like a jerk when that’s the furthest thing from your mind. It’s also a little hard for you to make the connection that you’re the one upsetting your partner with your words. To make a long story short, you can be really insensitive, almost comically so. On top of that, you’re not the best with commitment: you have a personality that makes you wonder if “the one” is really out there and you might end up walking away from something before it gets really serious, giving you more of an opportunity to play the field and soak up all the attention the world wants to give you.
As a Virgo, you are by far the most humble sign in the whole zodiac. Your attitude is equal parts mature and sweet, making you one of the nicest people of the zodiac on paper. You tend to be the “mom-friend” in your squad and you sometimes fall into the habit of taking care of your romantic partners in the same way. It might take you a little time to figure out how much care you need to give your partner, but eventually, you’ll figure it out. As a Virgo, you have a discerning spirit: you’re very rarely wrong about people and tend to make good choices when it comes to your relationships and friendships. You’re a reliable person and the people around you find comfort in the fact that you’re around. You refuse to let only words speak to the love you have to give: you believe in taking action and showing people how you feel about what you do.
As a Virgo, you’re probably one of the most low-key sensitive people in the whole zodiac. It’s almost hilarious how thin-skinned you can be. You tend to be so committed to the relationship that you’ll kind of freak out if they show you that they’re not as committed to what’s going on as you are. This could mean that you’ll freak out when your long-term partner isn’t taking the next step, but it could also mean that you’re just in it casually or as friends-with-benefits and the other person wants more and you don’t know how to handle that. Your lack of faith in other people comes from a deep-rooted sense of insecurity. You’re so used to relying on yourself that you refuse to put yourself into the hands of another person. That can be the death knell for a relationship.
If we were trying to figure out Prince Charming’s zodiac sign, I would bet good money that he would be a Libra. Regardless of your gender, you approach relationships in a simple way: you want to fulfill the greatest desires of your romantic partners and become the thing that they want most in the world. You bring your flirting A-game and people who first meet you sometimes can get flustered by your confidence. You’re a charmer at heart and you know how to make people feel special. More often than not, you don’t have a specific method for meeting people and getting them to like you either. Rather, you’re a person who observes people and tailors your responses to the specific person. This makes the people you’re talking to let their guard down and allow themselves to be swept off their feet by their personal Prince or Princess Charming.
Sure, you’re a flirt and can make people feel special, but more often than not, that’s where the fun is for you and you don’t care too much about moving things beyond that. This makes you kind of a tease and people who are more focused on commitment might get totally frustrated by you. This can also bite you where it hurts if you’re too much of a tease with someone that you really care about that doesn’t have time to play games, so make sure you treat the people you really want to invest in with the seriousness they deserve. Additionally, your really outgoing nature can be a bit much for signs that need time to recharge away from people. It’s also pretty much a given that you, as a Libra, are terrible at making decisions and can be seen as wishy-washy. This is actually what motivates your tease-like nature.
If you’re looking for the relationship where the passion is always all over the place and you’re basically on a roller coaster, you’re basically describing what it’s like to date a Scorpio so I’d suggest going out there and finding one. As a Scorpio, you’re a person who doesn’t know how to turn off the intensity, which can be overwhelming for some people. For those who can take the heat of a relationship with you, though, they’ll find themselves rewarded with a passionate romantic partner who can be trusted with your deepest, darkest secrets. Dating you isn’t for the faint of heart, and you don’t bother with the faint of heart anyway. For the people you date, being with you is kind of like going on an adventure that can take a dark turn at any moment.
Sure, you can keep secrets with the best of them, but the only reason why you can is that you’ve got such good practice keeping your own. You’re kind of like an onion in the sense that you’re basically made up of layers. Try as your romantic partners might, they’ll find it nearly impossible to get through all of your layers to your inner core so they can get to know the real you. On top of that, Scorpios have a weird penchant for bringing weird vibes into a situation, so don’t be surprised if your romantic partner tells you that they didn’t know how to feel about you at first. You’re also a person who can have a flair for the melodramatic, which is just another facet of your intensity. In reality, your intensity is a pro and a con, so you need to make sure you’re not being domineering of the other person while still being yourself. It’s a fine line to walk, but many Scorpios do it all the time.
The thing about the Sagittarius sign is that it’s the sign of adventurers and wanderlust. However, it’s a bit deeper than that. Sure, Sagittarians are all about finding the real truth and getting deep and wise when they want to be, but the biggest thing about you in a relationship is that you’re kind of a goofball. You don’t have a care in the world, or at least you’re happiest that way. When you’re in a relationship, the other person feels like they don’t have to worry about a thing with you around. After all, they’re too busy having fun to get all stressed out. You have limitless, boundless energy and people can’t help but get caught up in the experience that is you.
The problem with not having a care in the world is that you don’t really care how you come across at any given moment. You’re the poster-child for mixed signals, making relationships really hard for you, especially anything even approaching a serious relationship. Serious relationships aren’t really your cup of tea anyway: you’d rather date around than commit, which can lead to people not taking you seriously when push really comes to shove in a relationship. You wouldn’t call yourself afraid of commitment, but your exes and even the people you deal with currently might. You’re also a person who will cut and run the second you feel like your freedom is being threatened, so take that how you will. You’re also a person who can get wrapped up in your philosophical thoughts and might need a rain check from time to time.
Capricorns are defined by their ambition and practicality, making them the last sign people tend to associate with long-lasting, passionate relationships. However, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Capricorns are plenty passionate and will go out of their way to make the object of their affections feel special. You’re just the type of person to go about the task of being romantic in a very methodical, practical way. You’re also a person who will go out of their way to communicate your thoughts, if not your deepest emotions, so while you might come off as a person who’s too pragmatic to be romantic, the people who fall for you get to see a whole different side of you that they can’t help but want to go all in for.
Because of your boundless ambition, you can sometimes come off as controlling. You’re not a person who believes in fate, preferring instead to make it so your life is your own and you are the master of your own fate. That attitude is a great one, but sometimes you can end up transferring that sentiment onto others in a way that can really be detrimental to a relationship made up of equals. You’re also a person who dislikes unnecessary conflict, you’re the type to keep the harmony at all costs. You’re not above getting a little manipulative if it means that you don’t have to have a fight in your relationship for no reason. You tend to not realize you’re doing these things either, so it takes a good deal of self-awareness to break these habits.
I’m an Aquarius currently dating a fellow Aquarius, so this can come off a little bit like bragging, but it’s been established that Aquarius is by far the most forward-thinking sign. They’re the most accepting people and chances are if you’re an Aquarius, that’s one of your best attributes. You’re an inventive soul who loves thinking up new ideas and coming up with new surprises for the person you like. You’re also up for all sorts of things, making you the ideal partner for a lot of different people. You tend to be a person who handles their emotional state in an intellectual, mental way, so you have a sense of expressing yourself that might come off a little weird at first, but your romantic partners totally pick up what you’re putting down.
Aquarians are low-key some of the most aggressively emotional people when they want to be, the problem is that nobody really recognizes that in this sign. You might feel like you’re a little too weird for others and while you embrace your weirdness, you hate feeling like an outcast. That being said, you can be really detached from other people, making it hard for a romantic partner to get to know you on a deeper level. Expressing emotions as feelings rather than thoughts is hard for you sometimes, so you come off like a person who spends way too much time in their own heads. It’s up to you to make it a point to learn how to communicate on the same wavelength as your partner rather than them always catering to you.
To be in a relationship with a Pisces is to get that romantic comedy type of relationship. As a Pisces, you don’t just fill in the role of a person’s boyfriend or girlfriend, you fill in the role of their best friend and confidante as well. You’re the most traditionally romantic too, so people who date you are swept off their feet. You’re an incredibly sensitive person who knows when to be tactful and when to be straightforward, and you have no problem getting in touch with your emotions. As the last sign in the zodiac, you’re the sign that’s kind of learned all of the lessons that the eleven preceding signs have learned already, making you an oddly enlightened person because people don’t tend to see you as that enlightened. On top of that, you’re low-key the funniest sign of the zodiac: your friends and partners know it’s just not the same without you around.
The problem with dating this sign is that there tends to be a lot of miscommunication between you and the people you date. You have a rich inner life, which means that sometimes you get absorbed into your little world for whatever reason. This could mean that you’re in a daydreaming mode and it’ll take a while to bring you down out of the clouds, or it could mean that you’re basically being consumed by your own emotional energy. It all depends on the specific type of person you are. Your way of getting absorbed into that place can lead to some misfires in communication. On top of that, your romanticism can lead you to put people on pedestals, only for you to be disappointed when the object of your affections falls short of your high expectations.