ENFP: Work on enjoying the moments as they come, not searching for the hidden meaning or the next part.
As someone who is constantly excited about possibilities and the future outcomes of literally everything, it can be extremely easy to become so caught up in what could happen that you miss out on what is actually happening right now. For these last few months of the year, especially the holidays, try to focus on taking in the moments as they are happening and being present in them. You’ll be amazed at how exciting it can be to look at something as it is, not for what it might be.
ENTP: Work on thinking through your words before speaking and not picking apart people for the sake of it.
Let’s be honest, we know from time to time you like to stir up a debate just for the heck of it. While it can be fun keeping people on their toes, it also doesn’t hurt to take a step back and really think through what you’re saying before you just blurt it out. The end of this year is likely going to bring around people you care for to spend some quality time with, and the last thing you really want is to hurt them with something you say just because you didn’t think it through. Even better, you can use all the innovative energy and ideas we know you have going on to help out the people in your life that could really use it. You’d be amazed at how you’ll feel in the long run.
INFP: Hold your loved ones closer and lend your shoulder for them to lean on. they need it now more than ever.
When it comes to compassion, it’s hard to rival you by any means. You’re thoughtful and empathetic without even having to try. Yet towards the end of the year, with all the social obligations and colder weather keeping everyone inside, it can become easy for you to retreat into yourself and get lost inside your own head more days than not. These last few months, do your best to reach out to those loved ones that keep coming to your mind because there is definitely a reason for it. They could really use someone like you to talk to during this time, and you know you have genuine desire to help those you care for—it works out well for everyone involved.
INTP: Allow this time of the year to take people up on the offers to reach out to you, or you to reach out to them.
I know it’s hard to believe, but you can’t always spend your time alone (though I’m sure you could come up with enough reasons to try and dispute that). While it would be easy for you to retreat into your own little world with only yourself and your ideas to keep you company, you should try to spend these next couple months to actually take people up on their offers to spend time with you or, even more, you reach out to them. Despite the initial hesitation you might have at the thought, you’ll be surprised at just what you might have been missing out on by not taking the time to connect to the people around you who have sincerely desired to.
ESFJ: Take the time to express how thankful you are for the people and opportunities in your life, from a genuine place rather than expecting it back.
You will always go above and beyond to do whatever you can to help your loved ones, and we can’t thank you enough for that. Yet sometimes, we know part of you might do these things more in hopes for reciprocation than doing it out of the sincerity of your heart. While there is nothing wrong with wanting people to do things for you, and you do deserve that, once you start doing things in hopes of receiving something, it tends to cause resentment if they don’t come through the way you wanted. These last few months of the year, work on showing the people you love that you are thankful for them without expecting a thing in return. You’ll be amazed at how light you’ll feel when you aren’t weighed down by expectations of others.
ISFJ: Cut out toxic people and/or those who take advantage of you.
The amount of love and dedication you pour into your interactions with the people you love is such a beautiful thing, and we adore you for it. Yet we both know that there are some people who have ended up in your life who aren’t exactly concerned with how they treat you, or how often you give to them only for them to take…and take…and take. While there is a difference between someone who makes a mistake and someone who is toxic, you should spend the last few months of the year determining who is actually your friend, and who it might be best to let go of. You deserve to be happy and take care of yourself, too.
ESTJ: Open up and take the time to genuinely tell the people you love you care for them.
I know just reading that alone might have made you uncomfortable, but hear me out. You spend a lot of time getting things done and working on efficiently keeping things going and you’re extremely successful with it. You get a bad rep for not always showing your emotions, but we know you have them and so do the people that care deeply for you. The rest of this year, work on taking the time to surprise everyone and express how much you care for them and how thankful you are for them without brushing it under the rug or acting like it’s no big deal. You’ll be surprised at the response you receive from the ones you open up to and truth be told, it won’t kill you to show your emotional side every now and then.
ISTJ: Work on being less scheduled and rigid.
We know you like to plan things out, but we also know that we can’t plan everything in life (though I’m sure you’ve come pretty close). The last few months of this year, work on allowing the inevitable constant social gatherings to happen even if they don’t go quite according to plan, and being okay with that. It’s okay to help out if you’re asked, but it can be easy for you to get so caught up in the plans that you don’t fully enjoy yourself, especially if things don’t go according to schedule you’ve meticulously created. Though it might be a bit frustrating to leave things in other people’s hands, the important thing is you’ll be spending time with the people you love and care for, and what could be better than that?
ENFJ: Volunteer someplace that really lets you connect with people around you.
You are definitely someone we look to when we need a helping hand or a compassionate ear to listen, and we love you for it. Sometimes you can inevitably get a little too caught up in the lives of your loved ones, bordering on overstepping your bounds. Rather than focusing all your energy on the ones around you, you should spend the last few months of the year volunteering someplace that allows you to pour out your compassion you hold so much of, while also giving back to your community around you. It’s easy for you to overexert yourself with helping everyone else though, so don’t forget to take some time for yourself too, especially around the holidays season where everyone demands so much of your time.
INFJ: Don’t be afraid to take a chance on the thing/goal/idea you’ve been wrestling with all year.
We know you’ve gone through all the options, and you’ve thought out every single possibility on what could happen. We know you only want to do this to the best of your ability, but the sad part of this is if you just keep thinking about this instead of doing it, you’re going to look back in regret, and the world is never going to experience this incredible thing going on in your head. Spend these last few months at least taking steps to make it happen. Even if you don’t fully complete it, you will at least be getting somewhere.
ESTP: Slow down and take a moment to think before you do.
This time of year can feel like the need to get everything done because it’s all coming to an end, but it’s okay to take a second to think through on if you actually SHOULD do something…or if you just really want to. Though your impulsive streak and ability to do things while everyone is just thinking of them is admirable, it can also get you into more trouble than you bargained for. Take these last few months to make sure you’re doing the things worth doing, rather than just chasing something for the sheer excitement of it all.
ISTP: Be open to contributing and helping out the people you care for.
You have these insane abilities to get things done with shortcuts and we are pretty jealous of this more times than we’d like to admit. I know it’s easier to just keep to yourself, but you’ll be surprised at just how much you can help out when you’re not just thinking about things and actually doing them. Plus, despite what you may think, we all do need other people to help us thrive in this life, and it won’t kill you to actually pretend you actually aren’t the only person you need.
ESFP: You can be the life of the party, but try and make sure you enjoy yourself too rather than focus on what makes everyone else happy.
Don’t worry, I’m not going to tell you to settle down and hide from being the center of attention—we know that would be entirely too difficult for you anyway. However, sometimes it seems you feel as though to be the best version of yourself, you think you only have to be concerned with everyone else’s feelings and keep yours on the back burner, but that’s just not true. These last few months of the year, make sure that you aren’t completely sacrificing yourself and what makes you happy just to please everyone else. It’s okay to be the life of the party and take care of yourself, too.
ISFP: Don’t be afraid to take credit and accept the thanks from people for the things you create/do.
When it comes to creating and caring for people, you are easily someone that comes to mind. You do so many incredible things that sometimes it might be easy to believe this is just so natural to you because it is. We know it’s easy for you to sell yourself short and pretend that the things you do aren’t really a big deal, but truth be told, it’s okay to accept that praise for what you’re doing. So these last few months of the year, let the praise and those compliments inspire and empower you through the rest of the year and prepare you for all the things you’re going to do in the next one.
ENTJ: Take time to finish some of those goals you started, but don’t allow your tunnel vision to keep you from spending time with the people that matter.
You’ve been working tirelessly all year long at making your goals a reality, which is pretty much you, always. The good news is you’re making real headway and are starting to see things really taking shape, so these last few months there isn’t anything wrong with trying to bring those things home and see them completed. However, don’t allow your tunnel vision and determination to get things done to alienate you from your family and friends and the ones you care for you. Be sure to take the time to connect and be with them as well, because though your achievements matter, it isn’t worth forsaking the people who will be there for you no matter what happens.
INTJ: Take the time to give another chance to someone you’ve written off.
We know you’re a very intelligent and strongly moral human being, and we appreciate your outlooks on things. We know in addition to this, sometimes you can be quick to write off someone when they make a mistake, and that’s for good reason. Yet sometimes, it can’t hurt to allow someone a second chance to prove they’ve learned from their mistake. Some people were placed in your life for good reason. These last few months of the year, take the time to evaluate whether to extend forgiveness to someone who you initially had written off. You’d be surprised what you are still capable of learning from them, as well as it won’t kill you to open up and trust every now and again.