Do I like him? That’s the million dollar question ninety percent of women ask themselves after a date that they’re not sure went exactly according to plan but there could definitely be something there.
Feelings can be SO misleading sometimes. We’ll go out with guys, desperately trying to find our ‘one’ and sometimes, due to our hidden desire to find that deep love that movies romanticize so much, we tend to settle for something that’s neither here nor there.
But the real truth is, it’s just too risky to put your heart out there, leaving it so open and vulnerable, when you’re just not sure whether you like him or if it’s just a temporary crush for the sake of momentary pleasure.
You really want to like him and you want to be sure of your feelings if you’re going to act on them… But what if your mind is tricking you?
What if this guy is just some rebound dude you like at this very moment, because you’re still so fresh from a break-up that you just can’t think straight?
This is why it’s really important to ask yourself, “Do I like him?’’ for two very specific reasons.
Firstly, you don’t want to end up embarking on another superficial, draining, insignificant romantic voyage that’s going to feel good for exactly three weeks before you start realizing you’re wasting your time on something so meaningless.
And secondly, you want to be careful not to hurt his feelings either. Men are people too. However tough their exterior might appear, they hurt just as much as we do, so it is necessary to be certain before making any promises.
If you want to be in a real, solid relationship with this man, you need to be careful to start it off with honest, genuine feelings.
As you know, loyalty is the most important quality in a relationship and you can’t be loyal if you’re unsure of your feelings.
So, if you’re still interested in uncovering the hidden affections of your heart, keep reading and find out for sure.
If the answer is occasionally or sometimes, it might be a temporary crush. But if you can’t take your mind off of him and if thoughts about him give you a fuzzy feeling, the answer is clear—you like him.
What do you like about him? List everything on paper and see the number of listed things. Are there more than ten, maybe twenty or thirty things you really do like about him? If so, why are you even asking yourself if you like him? Of course you do.
Has your life gotten much happier since he’s been around? Are you happy he’s there? Or would it be much better if he wasn’t around?
We simply have some people in our life who are just meant to be there. They feel like sunshine after a storm, so beautifully warm and we feel so connected to them because we can be ourself around them. Does this apply to him, too?
Does your heart rate increase? If you feel your heart thumping inside your chest and you lose your breath, if you can’t find the right words and you always say something funny or things don’t come out of your mouth the way they should, you are getting nervous around him. The next question is, ”Why do you get nervous?” and I guess that’s because you really do like him.
OK, the way a man we like looks at us can give us shivers all over our body. Does he look at you that way? Does he knock you off your feet just by looking at you?
I mean for the both of you. Can you see yourself being with him and reaching all the relationship goals you’ve set for yourself? Can you imagine yourself being happy with him? If you immediately thought, ‘Yes!’ to all of the above, you probably really like him!
If the answer to this one is a picture of yourself jumping around out of happiness, then my job here is done.
Meaning an emotional, mental and maybe even a physical connection with him. Emotional as in you feel secure when you’re around him and you don’t need to worry about if he’s going to be there for you. A mental connection as in you can talk about everything that’s on your mind with him. Physical—do you find him attractive? Is he s*xy? Be honest!
It’s about the first thing that pops into your mind. If you get that fuzzy feeling and butterflies in your stomach and if the first thing on your mind is happiness, then the answer is clear. No need to further question yourself about it.
Have you sat down with him and talked about his plans for the future, his morals, ideals, likes and dislikes? If you haven’t had a proper conversation about the big stuff, it’s important to do so before deciding if you really like him!
I mean, how long do you think you have liked him? If you’ve been crushing on him for some time now, you might see that there is no reason to just call it a crush. Crushes can’t last for a long period of time—they are just temporary. But if it’s been months? It’s more than just a crush.
Friends from both sides. If you’re being pressured from your and his friends to like him and be with him because, as they said, ”You’d look cute together,” chances are small that you’re actually interested in him but rather that you’re being pressured into something that wasn’t even your choice to begin with.
Usually, if you like someone, you simply know it. You feel it, to be honest. You don’t question yourself. But if you do, you can continue to ask yourself questions like, “Is it because I didn’t have the chance to talk to him alone?”
You like the people who see the good parts of you and compliment you a lot. It’s human nature. We love to be complimented. If he does compliment you a lot, then maybe you’ve fallen for the compliments and not for him? I don’t know, you do.
This can mess with your feelings a lot. If you’re trying to get over an ex, finding someone to help you with that is the easiest thing ever. Be sure that you are completely over any baggage that is left from your past relationships, just help yourself with that. You will end up hurting both of you if you start something new while you’re holding on to the baggage of your past.
This is more confusing but if you made a move on him before, if you tried to flirt with him, you really do like him. If not, then you’re in love with the idea of liking him. We’re known for going after what we want. If you didn’t start something then you don’t truly want him.
If you immediately started hyperventilating in your mind at the thought of this, your heart started beating twice the normal speed and a huge smile formed on your face… yup, you really like this dude.
If you can’t even imagine this happening and you are repulsed by the idea… then you probably do have strong feelings for him. If you can’t see yourself going out with anyone else (no matter how hot they are) you know your feelings are legit.
If you feel like it’s really different this time and you can’t even compare it to anything, you might be onto something here. But if it feels the exact same way as it did with your exes, you might not actually like him; you’re just stuck in an unhealthy pattern.