Relationships and marriages are no longer working for expanded old souls because innately on a deeper knowing the higher self is communicating to your soul to take certain actions in your life.
The only reason you feel resistance, strife or inaction in your love life is because there is a lack of action towards your divine calling.
Emotions are our internal compass, but because we have been conditioned in society to ignore our feelings, learning the difference between ego vs soul emotions can be very confusing. This is why I’m writing this post.
I am truly blessed for all the traumas I have been through, for it is the journey through the dark that is our best teacher. Based on pure Divine guidance I have healed and worked through a tremendous amount of darkness so I can speak to you about this. Nobody has taught this to me but my bond and relationship with the cosmos.
The conditioning on the planet around love is mostly out of ego. We only get glimpses of what true Divine love is through various experiences, like when you have a new baby, or how present you are with your children, but most of our other experiences like falling in love are based out of mind patterns we haven’t acknowledged. It’s not to say that the love you feel isn’t real, it is real when it is only a small doorway opening.
Human love starts when you come into this world where exterior gratification becomes normal. For instance, we don’t have to think if we love our parents, at some point no matter how you feel now, deep inside of you, you know your soul loves your parents. Yes looking that deep can bring up painful thoughts if you experienced a painful childhood but look beyond that. It hurts that much because there has been a resistance built up around the true love you really feel for them.
That deep love didn’t come from the exterior gratification being fed or getting a new toy or new clothing, but you began to experience a level of being nurtured and cared for outside of yourself that brought you comfort.It is from this young age where we first recognize love and comfort from outside of self and then the attachment is formed. It’s natural and normal and a part of the duality of why we come here.
This attachment continues as we get older, and eventually by the time we engage s*xually and get married we have a myriad of belief systems of what makes us feel good on the outside. If something we seek in a relationship with someone else doesn’t resonate with this system, we reject it.
Have you ever heard of the saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder?”That statement sings the song of Cosmic truth
I have never in my life ever dated someone because of how they looked, and I’m sure you will say that’s impossible but hear me out. Deeply, for me, it has always been about a soul connection.
These are only a few experiences; however, you can see the attraction was never attached to how someone looked, it was always about their soul.Although I experimented with really attractive humans if the connection wasn’t there, I couldn’t be with them because deep in my gut instincts something felt off.
What I gained out of these experiences and why none of them ever worked out was because I am able to see soul potential first before their face and body. This is what many highly evolved souls go through, we see soul potential. We honour the truth of a soul and then turn a blind eye if that person is unable to recognize that in themselves.
I discovered because of this amazing gift I have to love another’s soul, has hindered that individual in their own growth. Eventually, they would become dependent on me to give them that level of depth they were unable to give to themselves. It would feed a codependent pattern of over giving and unrequited love, an experience my higher self created because of my own conditioning of never getting the love I knew I deserved as a child. I created the situation to mirror back the lack I had in myself of over giving.
Meeting my twin flame this past year, I realized I continued to fall into that same pattern and although I hated saying goodbye, I walked away in a deep self-love for myself and refuse to place myself in a position again falling for someone’s soul potential. For me, on my path now, if someone can not act from their deep self-love for themselves, and to be in alignment with the Cosmos, who is willing to do the work, then I would rather be on my own.
Do you recognize the difference? Now don’t get me wrong, earth-based human relationships are needed to help us in our expansion, and there is real true love there. It’s simply the doorway to more expansion.
Some people right now aren’t ready for a Divine Union and there is nothing wrong with that. You will know in your gut when you are ready for a divine union vs. an earth-based relationship, neither is better or worse
Your higher self will continue to show you the resistance in your earth-based relationships of where you are not loving yourself. You will do the inner work and still, something will feel off to you. You will know when the resistance is so much that it’s time to let go of these types of relationships and to move into the seeking stage of a divine union. It will be a resistance that you can no longer ignore.
I don’t like saying one is better than the other, it’s all about how much more can you or are you willing to expand and evolve yourself? If you aren’t ready, you simply aren’t ready.
For me, my ultimate is to be with my twin flame, but I am also quite happy allowing the Universe to bring me a soulmate who can match my vibration. We can not be attached to anyone or any label, or it will create resistance and stop the natural flow of expansion and evolution.
Letting go and surrendering to a higher power is a key lesson in transitioning into a Divine Union. It is the inner knowing that you must let go when something feels off inside of you so that the Universe can come in and work that shit out. YES! It is super painful. Pain and loss never end no matter how much you have expanded. Pain is needed in the physical reality so we can further learn how to love ourselves deeper than before and to solidify our relationship and faith in the Cosmos. It’s all about learning a deeper act of self-nurturing and self-mastery and how to roll with the flow of life instead of resisting it.
Trust me, after finding this amazing connection I realized it wasn’t time for us, and it might not be in this life. I had to let go to allow growth for both of us.
To have full surrender to the Universe is to continue to hold your vibration as a sacred act of mastery because all humans on the planet have the ability to get to this point of emotional mastery. It is where I reside now, in full allowance that I really have no control over how things manifest, all I know is that the Universe knows my heart and my desires and as long as I act out of pure self-love for myself by setting healthy boundaries to keep my vibe intact where I am still able to serve and give to others, then true divine love, no matter a soulmate or my twin, true love will land in my lap as well.