Dating a new man can be nerve-racking. We all walk into the date nervous, not knowing what to expect, how to act, what to say and what not to say. It’s hard out there, but that’s why this article exists to make it easier for ladies in the dating world.
Dating doesn’t have to be such a difficult ordeal to go through, in fact when done right it can be very enjoyable providing you are seeing the right type of guy.
Here you will find 15 dating hacks to make your hot date stick around and take it to the next level, that is of course if that’s what you wish. Either way these 15 hacks will help you have a more enjoyable date and hopefully it will land you your prince charming.
It’s pretty common for women to get all glammed up for a new hot date and watch endless makeup tutorials to get the perfect full-on makeup look. Women think that the more makeup they wear the better they will look, but actually this is just not at all true. Women like makeup, while men are not so keen about too much of it.
A research article published in the Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology revealed that men find women who wear less makeup more attractive. So tone it down, don’t go over the top with lots of blush, eye shadow and lipstick, your natural self is more appealing to him and you’ll also give your skin a break.
Everyone likes to feel important and that the world cares about us. Ask him questions about himself, about his childhood, his likes and dislikes and try and focus the attention on him instead of you. This will help him feel secure and eager to spend time with you. It will also help you get to know him better and create an atmosphere of interest, it’s very likely (if he’s not a narcissist) that he will ask you questions about yourself as well. This way the conversation will be flowing and you wont have to deal with awkward silent moments.
Men like women who eat! This doesn’t mean you have to eat an entire cow, but ordering just a salad sends out the message that you’re super strict on your eating habits and that you can´t lay back and relax, not even on a date. Of course it’s good to take care of yourself but it’s also good to relax on a date, as it will create a more comfortable atmosphere where you can both relax and actually enjoy your date. Food is an important factor in social gatherings, not eating is not going to make you look thinner; it’s going to make you look uptight.
It’s very likely he’ll say no, but offering to pay part of the check is going to make you look good in his eyes. With the whole feminism movement going on, men are sensing that women just want the benefits of equality but are refusing to acknowledge other aspects, like equality when it comes to paying the check. It will also send out the message that you’re an independent woman that won’t be clinging on to him for everything and that you’re strong enough to use your own money.
So take out your wallet and offer to pay; if he says no then offer to at least pay the tip. It’s always good to be generous.
If you’re dying to get married and have babies, keep those wishes to yourself and do not bring them up during a date. These subjects are a huge romance killer and can quite often scare him away. Focus the conversation on plans that you have for yourself and ask him what he wants out of life. If he says that he also wants to get married someday, then just act casual and don’t show too much euphoria over it. If things go well and you both fall in love and see that the relationship is going somewhere, then you’ll have plenty of time to bring up the subject, but these subjects are definitely a big no-no during the early dating stages.
This is why it’s important to ask him questions about himself, so that you can give yourself an idea of the type of interests he has and to see if he’s a match for you. Maybe you both are completely different and you realize you have absolutely nothing in common with him, in which case it’s better to leave things as they are and walk away. But maybe you both have very important things in common and you share lots of interests, so look for these. They can give important clues for things that you can do and share together, strengthening the bond between you both.
So you really like him but you don’t really like his jokes. It doesn’t matter if they’re not funny, just laugh anyway, it will help him feel more confident and it will also help ease the stress of being on a date. Everyone enjoys making others laugh and he’s not the exception, maybe he’s working real hard on making you laugh so cooperate and do it. Laughing is great for your health anyway, it helps pump up your immune system and a woman’s best asset is her smile, so let him see it and try and find the humor in his jokes.
Trying to make him jealous and acting flirty with other men is not the best way to go if you want to keep your date; it actually makes a woman look promiscuous, not sexy. Behave like a lady with other men and leave the flirtatiousness for him, that’s why you’re on a date with him and not the waiter or the other men that you’ll encounter.
If you’re overly sexy and you can´t control it then do your best not to seem like you’re flirting with other people. A man doesn’t want to have to compete with others, especially so early on in a relationship, because it can make him believe that that’s how things are going to go if you guys take it to the next level.
You decide to go watch a movie and there’s the latest chick flick you’ve been dying to watch. Dragging him with you to see it is not going to help him fall in love with you. It might even do the opposite, as you might send out the message that you’re one of those girls who fantasizes about having her man act like Ryan Gosling in The Notebook.
It doesn’t mean you have to choose the manly movie with Hugh Jackman, but you can choose something in between that won’t put him to sleep. Choose a thriller or a horror movie, something that you can use as an excuse to cling to his arm while you’re watching.
Overexposure is not the best way to get positive male attention. Remember you are a lady after all and like a lady you should dress the part. A fine line divides sexiness and vulgarity, if you don’t watch what you’re wearing you might end up on the wrong side of this line. Choose your outfit wisely, if you’re showing too much leg then cover the upper part of your body or vice versa.
You don’t want to leave the house looking like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, that was just a movie after all. Besides you don’t want a man to look at you like you’re a piece of meat, you want to look sexy but also sophisticated and elegant, so pay extra attention to your outfit and make sure you’re dressing for a prince, not a pimp.
You are one of a kind and absolutely perfect. Don’t put on masks that don’t fit with your fantastic personality, the right man will fall in love with your authentic self. Pretending to be someone else is the perfect way of landing you the wrong man, and you don’t want to have to live up to a persona you created just for the sole purpose of dating a man that might not be the right one for you.
So be yourself and if he’s the one he will love you for who you are, not for who you pretend to be.
Let the man breath. Don’t text him every five minutes asking when you guys are going to see each other again. Try and act casual, even if you’re dying to see him because this is the part of the dating game that is crucial and it’s about playing the right cards at the right time. This doesn’t mean you have to completely disappear from the face of the earth; it’s about acting casual and relaxed. If he doesn’t text you then give it time and always act cool, even if on the inside you want to propose to him.
Intensity can cause a man to freak out and walk away, because it makes a woman seem desperate and desperation is a sign of weakness.
Don’t give away all the goodies too early on. Men like sex, that’s no surprise, unfortunately many times men just date women for the sole purpose of sex. Leaving a man wanting more builds up the interest and sends out the message that you’re not the type of girl to be used like tissue paper.
So hold on and don’t let him have you too early on, you want to give yourself some respect and show him that you’re not to be toyed with. Sex later on will also help strengthen the relationship and forge tension that will drive him crazy for you.
Nowadays it’s very easy to get addicted to technology, especially our cell phones. It’s extremely disrespectful to give our cell phones more attention than the person who is physically sitting next to us; this is particularly rude if we’re on a date.
Put your phone in your purse on silent mode and give your date your undivided attention, the world wont stop turning if you’re off your phone for a couple of hours. If you have to make an urgent call then politely tell him it’s important and talk in the bathroom or outside.
They’re both very sensitive and personal subjects that should be avoided at all costs during a hot new date. Addressing sensitive subjects can create a time bomb that is left waiting to explode. It is important that you both have certain similarities regarding these subjects; nevertheless they’re a big no no when you’ve just started dating.
If you want to talk about serious issues that won’t create problems then focus on something less problematic like global warming or the famines in Africa.